For the longest time, I have seen and heard so many times of men staying in abusive relationships, whether it be physical, emotional, sexual, verbal, etc. And yet I hardly see anyone try to reach out to them to tell them to walk away. Even sometimes on here I've seen so many questions from guys saying their girlfriends do this stuff, and they have VERY few responses, whereas women on the other hand, 9/10 times they have MULTIPLE responses telling them to get away from there and that she deserves better. But that is not happening enough for men.
Now before I continue, let me say this. I know the vice versa is true where men commit abuse towards women in relationships. I get it, and I acknowledge that, but right now I'm talking about the men. And if you are unwilling to deal with that, you might as well stop reading this.
Anyways, back to my point. You wanna know why I think guys are staying in those relationships? It's because they do not respect themselves. They do not think that they are deserving of a happier relationship. And it's not hard to see why. We live in a world now where it has become the norm to emasculate, shame, demonize and hate men just for existing. Everyday you see in person and online how, "Men are trash, men ain't shit, men are useless, men are worth nothing, men's issues aren't that important, men are all dogs, the world would be better off with less men."
That is just a taste of what guys have hear every single day, so of course there are gonna be guys who do not respect themselves because of this. And that's gonna carry on into a relationship, especially when the woman (or man) is abusive. Because they never had that understanding voice reach out to them to convince them that they are not in fact worthless just for being a man, and that there is value into being a man.
I used to be one of those people. All I heard were negative things about men and I was a bit ashamed to be one myself. But I was blessed enough to have come across some people who told me otherwise. I am will be forever grateful for them to reinstate my confidence in myself, and my life has had a better outcome ever since then. But there's lots of men out there who have never had that voice reach out to them, because not enough people are willing to reach out to them in today's society. I am trying to be to them what those other people were to me.
Knowing that, I for one am VERY appreciative of men and women who have the courage to stand up against this screwed up mentality of bashing all men just for existing and saying "You are enough."
So for all of you fellas out there who are in abusive relationships, KNOW YOUR WORTH! Know that you do not deserve to be treated like crap. Respect yourself to walk away and find someone who won't treat you like garbage. You DO deserve happiness in your life.
It is disgusting and disheartening that I feel like not enough people are willing to say this stuff. But I am willing to do so. Wish you all the best life possible!
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