My ex ghosted me 2 years after I dumped him

[LostandFound__x]

Ok so I’m finally ready to talk about this because it was truly the cherry on top.

I was with someone 2 years ago and it was a toxic relationship to say the least (but very passionate).

Long story short — we were both damaged, I cried every day and he thrived off giving me the silent treatment.

I eventually got sick of it and I left. And he let me go.

2 years later he texted me to apologise about what happened and he said he couldn’t get me off his mind.

I said I was scared and I couldn’t go back to the way things were.

We spoke for 2 days and it felt like we never broke up.

He started becoming distant so I got upset and blocked him.

I admit that was wrong, but I felt triggered by the past.

I apologised and he was responsive. The next day he ghosted me.

I suppose the point of me saying this is because I haven’t told anyone about this.

Mainly because I am ashamed of it all.

I’m ashamed I gave into my ex. I’m ashamed to have thought he would’ve changed for me. I’m ashamed that I hadn’t found somebody else 2 years later. I’m ashamed because now I think he thinks I’m lame.

And I’m ashamed because it’s made me question everything.

I’m tired of bottling it inside.

[MicahRaine]

I'm going to write a longer response when I have access to a computer, but bottom line: that sucks! And from what I can tell, you're an amazing perfect. You'll find your One!

[MicahRaine]

*person not perfect 😂

[MicahRaine]

Okay, I got my computer.

I understand how hard it can be to have a partner who gives you the silent treatment. Sometimes my girlfriend does that too, but we're working through it and she's doing it less and less.

You have nothing to be ashamed of. People DO change all the time. I actually think it's really sweet that you gave him a second chance.

What are you you questioning specifically?

My DMs are always open for people who want to vent or need help.

[LostandFound__x]

Thanks so much! I’m not questioning anything specifically just needed to let it out lol. It happened a few weeks ago and I’ve kept it to myself because I felt embarrassed

[MicahRaine]

I get that. Take care!

[LostandFound__x]

Thanks :)

[MicahRaine]

Of course 🫡

[NathanDavis]

time to let it go, and move on...

[nik0102]

From his pov, isn't it a red flag being blocked?

[LostandFound__x]

Yeah

[nik0102]

Like, blocking and ghosting are 2 ways to achieve the same thing

[LostandFound__x]

Yeah but he triggered me to do that by not replying the entire day. We’re bad for each other.

[nik0102]

We've all been there

[LostandFound__x]

Yeah :( I can overlook things though. Sadly he can’t do the same with me.

[nik0102]

i feel the same way. i forgived her, only to do the same thing twice

[PeterLegg91]

He probably feels the same way

[LostandFound__x]

In what way?

[PeterLegg91]

He probably realises he fucked up and feels ashamed of himself

[LostandFound__x]

Really? I hope so. That makes me feel a bit better lol.

[PeterLegg91]

:) x

[LostandFound__x]

:) :)

[eagle1951]

his lose all the way around

[LostandFound__x]

Thanks 😊