My reasonings for wanting to give the child a name is that I feel that it's common curteious for everyone to have an identity. For certain I know the Childs last name will be the father's for respect on his part.
At the same time, I'm scared to tell him. What do you believe and if you were a guy, would you want your girlfriend to tell you if she had a miscarriage with your child even if she didn't tell you she was pregnant? Thank you.
Also, explain how it's playing with his feelings when I wasn't at all?
You're the one that started the drama by using unnecessary words, you act like an 8 year old who still lives with her mom by what I picked up with your personality. That wasn't being truthful, you
Most Helpful Guy
You didn't tell him you were pregnant, so it's best not to tell him you had a miscarriage. You can decide on a name by yourself, no need to include him in all the pain when he wasn't included in the pregnancy. You'll just make him feel bad and possibly angry that you kept something like him becoming a dad from him. I get that you feel it would be common courtesy for the child, but it would be common courtesy for your ex not to cause him all the emotional turmoil if he finds out.
I'm sorry about your loss, it's must be really horrible. :(((0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
Depending on his demur or the kind of relationship you have here, dear, Let sleeping dogs lie with this 'Miscarriage' and no need to open up a can of worry wart worms.
It's not always easy to just blurt out and bellow Out that one is pregnant when you are in a relationship, not even married. I am quite sure you had your reason of the season Then as to Why you couldn't come clean with them, perhaps afraid to be in the dog house, afraid you may be barking up the wrong tree and Now... even having the same feelings, I am feeling here, dear.
If Silence is better golden, and it could very well tarnish what you have and at the moment there is no reason to throw an egg that wasn't developed into the pix, then keep it to yourself, 'Give the child a name' out of respect and because I see... you have a heart of gold.
Good luck and blessings. xx0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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