Not to sound completely self-centered, but I have been nothing but nice to this guy I like since I met him. He says he loves me, but he can't love two people at the same time.
However, he constantly goes back to this one chick who makes him feel like sh*t constantly, puts him down, and argues with him over everything.
When she doesn't get her way she stops talking to him for months, so we grow close. But then she comes back expecting him to love her more than ever, and gets p*ssed and tells him never to talk to me again when she finds out about us. He won't, but he still wants things to work out with her.
She was the first person ever to take him up and actually have sex with him, so she believes they have some 'special bond'. But all she does his guilt him and make him suffer for everything he does, then manipulate him.
She's a jealous bitch who does nothing but play on his insecurities, and makes him out to be a monster.
He even wants kids some day, she's told him she'd never have kids with him!
Why does he always go back to her when she treats him like this?!
I realize he loves her but Jesus, any relationship with her is just destined for epic failure!
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You aren't perfect, but you're much better than her. He's like I am, I think. No matter how bad she would ever treat him, she held the ideal of how great she was to him at one time. He can't let go. What you need to do is to tell him to choose. Listen, he probably will choose her over you, but he's going to come back to you when she f***s him over and leaves again. Don't be easy. You tell him that you can't trust him and can't believe him again. If he really loves you, he'll do all he can to prove that you can. Don't give in or let up for a while, but don't play it out or push him away. Let him try and you be committed to him without telling him. Don't give him too much, but don't give anyone else anything. He will deserve it. If he doesn't, he shouldn't and you should never talk to or give him the same jurisdiction again. You just make sure that when he comes back you tell him that no one else, not even her, will ever mean anything more or the similar again. After that, he earns it and you don't give him anything he doesn't earn. YOU will be worth it your whole life. It won't be someone else deserving more because no one else does. Be sure, though. You'll destroy him if he tries so hard for you, like he tried for her, and you let him down. Be honest, be open, and be sure of what you say. Don't tell him something without following through. He'll hate you and think of you far less than if you were honest about your intentions and feelings.1