This just happened to me.
My boyfriend just dumped me bcause he found another woman who, in his words, "acts like a real woman", I asked him what that entails and he bascially said "She's not a man-hating Feminist" like I supposedly am. I immediately felt sick to my stomach and ran to the bathroom to throw up.
Right now I feel horrible, like I just wanna disappear, crawl into a cave and spend the rest of my life in it... something.
This is probably the biggest punch in the face I have ever received.
I mean, yes I'm a Feminist, I'm proud of that, I wear it on my sleeve and it defines a huge chunk of who I am and I though he was supportive of my beliefs, but I guess not and my beliefs are the reason he's breaking my heart.
What in the hell do men want from us? To be like blowup dolls devoid of personalities and flaws, silent sex toys? Is that all men want is sex? I swear, sometimes I hate the entire breed and right now my soul is on fire.
What do men mean when they say they want a "Real Woman"? Was I not real enough for him?
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"sometimes I hate the entire breed"
So was he really wrong when he called you a "man-hating feminist"?
You clearly have some issues regarding men that need to be solved, and honestly if feminism is a huge part of your life, that isn't gonna help. And I really dont understand why you would let a movement or a group define a huge chunk of who you are, because that is something that comes from the outside rather than from the inside, thats what seems fake to me. Because when you affiliate yourself with a movement you dont really seem like an individual with her own thoughts anymore, it feels like you're just gonna follow whatever the majority of feminists are gonna do.
Anyway he was definitely being a complete idiot and an asshole, if he had a problem with you being a feminist he should have made it clear from the start or just not have dated you in the first place. But you really need to stop thinking of men as some group with an unified opinion on how women should be/behave, thats just ridiculous.
I dont think you have to worry about the "real woman" thing too much, he probably just meant that he wants a more "traditional woman". You two clearly werent meant for each other, just try to accept that, move on and find someone more fitting for you.16