I've been dating my boyfriend for eight months now, and everything is really great between us except for this one problem. He always brings up how sexy he thinks Asian women are. I'm not usually the jealous type but this really gets on my nerves. I'm a French woman and I have pretty much the exact opposite features of an Asian. I have green eyes and I'm very curvy (but not fat, I have a flat stomach). He's pretty persistent about it and I'm wondering if you guys think he's taking it seriously enough to consider cheating on me. It makes me very uncomfortable, and I'm not meaning to offend anyone here but what is with this stereotype with Asian women being so beautiful? The ones I've met are so tiny they look like women trapped in the bodies of little boys. There's no curves to them! Is this really what men find attractive these days, and if so why? What's this big phenomenon with Asian women being considered the most beautiful? He's planning a trip to Manila sometime in the next year and I'm very worried about it, so please answer truthfully. All opinions are appreciated!
ps: Every time we go out for sushi or anywhere with Asian food he gawks at the waitress until I wanna slap him !
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Granted, the guy lacks sensitivity. Who wouldn't get jeolous if his/her partner does this day & night?
"The ones I've met are so tiny they look like women trapped in the bodies of little boys. There's no curves to them! Is this really what men find attractive these days, and if so why?"
Meaning when he is looking at them, he isn't thinking about wild sex with a shallow prostitute; he finds depth in Asian women (from his perspective of course) attractive.
It also means, given his lack of sensitivity/depth, it is only natural to admire someone who has. Of course, if he sees an Asian man with the depth, that maybe another emotion -- jeolousy. Ahem ... you can have fun with him, and tease him with the same thing the next time you see Asian men, just look at them with admiration and tell him how attractive they are. See if he gets it? Don't overdo it though, just enough to "wake him up" and let him taste what it was like for you.
Another thing is, at his age with strong need for sex, that's probably still not a problem. It is when he matures mentally/emotionally/spiritually, still have a sex drive, and meet an Asian women with amazing figure AND depth, which he will find plenty of if he ever visits Asia, when that becomes a "problem". Best thing for you to do is to cultivate inner qualities yourself. Not only will he finds you growing in attractiveness, you get the benefit yourself because it is all part of inner personal development.1