my ex boyfriend moved away about a week ago. we have been broken up for maybe 2 or 3 weeks now. and all this is so hard on me. he tells me we can talk and still keep in touch but yet, he doesn't call or talk to be for like 6 days, until I message him on Facebook. I hate being the first person to talk to him but whatever. so I messaged him again cause I completely broke down the other day and this is what I said:
i shouldn't be doing this. but I'm just letting you know I'm a complete f***ing mess right now.
i can't even go out cause I can't stop crying. I haven't cried in like a f***ing week either.
everything I do and everything I see reminds me of you. I can't take this.
i love you so f***ing much even though I shouldn't because I know you're probably hooking up with some chick right now.
this isn't fair. I really wish you didn't go, or you would come back or something.
i miss you. I miss cuddling with you and kissing you. and your hugs. and all the things we used to do together.
i just can't deal with this. and it sucks. and the worst part is, if you really truly did love me, you wouldn't have left. you would have at least tried to make this work with me, or at least waited for me.
i can't f***ing do this. I want you to come back :[ I wanna be yours :[[[[
and this is what he said back:
you are mine I still miss you I feel the same way but I can wait for you to be done with school, and I still want you to come visit I miss you I don't get on here much cause I'm busy
that doesn't seem too sincere to me. and like honestly if he cared he would call me (its a big deal because he doesn't have a phone right now)
i just don't know how to take this.
when I first messaged him he told me he's been busy catching up with old friends and he got a bike and stuff and he hasn't even slept in his own bed. like how the hell am I suppose to take that?
what do I do about all this?
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Okay is this is gonna sound counter productive, however, you wanna show him that you are a strong and confident person, that is sexy by the way. You can get anyone you want, but you choose him. Come on look at you :) But you reaching out to him you are basically telling him that you are thinking of him and when you remind him that you are a mess, you are basically saying that you are not strong and confident.
I want you to keep yourself busy and think of how you are gonna move on from this. You are a queen and you deserve better. Know that!
When a guy breaks up with a girl, he gave it thought. Believe it or not he was ready for the break up before he left you. You wanna know the best thing to do right now? No Contact! No contact gives you the dumpee time to reflect and not make the situation worse for yourself by reaching out to him (I will bet you that although it seems like a good idea at the time, you feel worse when you do reach out and don't get the reaction you wanted). Let this guy miss you. Dissappear on him. When you do this, we wonder why she isn't calling me and telling me she misses me? What could she be doing? Is she thinking of me? When you disappear you get in our heads and that is how we miss you. Who knows by the time he comes around, you might not want him anymore and have already moved on for real.
Please be selfish when it comes to your ex. It's all about you now. You are all that matters. Take care of you and do thinks that make YOU happy. He isn't reaching out to you because he is "busy", well so are you pretty girl.2