I find the "of you can't take me at my worst then you can't have me at my best" type of logic to be stupid, because if you are always at your worst you doesn't deserve him.
Are you sure it is just you're weight that he is talking about? Seems like he might be talking about other things.
Anyways, if someone makes you feel that bad about yourself you should probably move on.
Yeh it's just my weight, he said to me I'm the most perfect girl in so many ways for him but he can't get past this one little thing. He said your good but im also good too and i will give you the best so I expect the same level of standards back so if you love me and want us to work you should give me your best too and work hard on yourself.
That does seem somewhat fair, but how much bigger are you than you were before? If it is only a few bounds it seems unreasonable, but if it is 100lb than I could see his logic. + I think he could have handled it better. I'd sujest either moving back and/or joining a few groups that do things you love to do and hopefully you can make some new friends and possibly meet someone else.
Yeah hopefully I'll meet some new people soon. I'm actually 8kgs smaller than when we first met. I've been losing the weight for myself. He has been so happy but I think he expected me to lose more while being here. I think I've been doing alright but to him it's not enough. so I think him leaving is just his way of pushing me to do more then on his next leave in March he will probably beg his way back.
What you are saying sounds like you were "fat" before you met this guy; which would make him a child and a coward. If he weren't into thick girls he should have made it known from the outset, instead of leading you on. One of the hardest lessons we as humans can be asked to learn is making sure that the person we let into our lives appreciates and loves us as and for who we are before committing ourselves to that person in a relationship.
It's strange he says he loves you but he breaks up the day he is leaving. It's convenient to him. He got the whole holiday to get accostumed to the idea of breaking up while he left you with no time to deal with this. This is not something someone who loves you would do.
You are not worthless. You are willing to make big sacrifices for the person you love. Find someone who is capable of doing the same for you.
Wow first of all that guy is a shithead. 'I can't work if you can't fix yourself' disgusting. It's not like your just going to a lot of weight in a very short amount of time. Plus nothings wrong with a little extra fat (good for keeping you warm in the winter ;) ) but now, just focus in your self. And then show of that body to the guy that deserves not only your body, but you as A Person. You are a strong woman, you can do this! X
He’s not the one for you ! Find a man that doesn’t matter how you look or how much you weigh. FIGHT FOR HIM? No mam I wouldn’t. He seems like he’s embarrassed to be seen with you.. you can work hard and loose weight ONLY if you want to but not because someone else told you to.
Ok, it's not difficult. You must know them very well (even those you don't like) and accept them. You can't suppress them. After that you can control and maybe change your taste
He sounds like a dick. I mean if he cared about you or your health, he would have stayed with you. Exercising is so much easier when you have someone in your corner. I can't speak for you, but heartache either makes me eat more or not at all. Neither one is a healthy option. What country are you in. Go out meet people. Use the meet up app. No one should ever feel lonely, nor should anyone ever feel worthless. YOU'RE NOT WORTHLESS. He wasn't worthy of you!
From here you have two options. Turn your sadness into anger to fuel for exercising. To become fit and hot as ####. Then you go back to him and greet him like and friend (basically show him what he missed out on). Or get someone better
Girl, it’s not you. All soldiers cheat when they’re deployed. He wanted to make himself feel better for doing that. Dump his sorry backside and never look back.
All I can say is that u should feel blessed that this happened! Relieves u of ur burden to have to deal with him bc girl, u deserve better! That's messed up..
I didn't read all of it but he sounds like an asshole. He found you that way so he should love you that way. I'm guessing your better off without this douche bag
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I find the "of you can't take me at my worst then you can't have me at my best" type of logic to be stupid, because if you are always at your worst you doesn't deserve him.
Are you sure it is just you're weight that he is talking about? Seems like he might be talking about other things.
Anyways, if someone makes you feel that bad about yourself you should probably move on.
Yeh it's just my weight, he said to me I'm the most perfect girl in so many ways for him but he can't get past this one little thing. He said your good but im also good too and i will give you the best so I expect the same level of standards back so if you love me and want us to work you should give me your best too and work hard on yourself.
That does seem somewhat fair, but how much bigger are you than you were before? If it is only a few bounds it seems unreasonable, but if it is 100lb than I could see his logic. + I think he could have handled it better. I'd sujest either moving back and/or joining a few groups that do things you love to do and hopefully you can make some new friends and possibly meet someone else.
Yeah hopefully I'll meet some new people soon. I'm actually 8kgs smaller than when we first met. I've been losing the weight for myself. He has been so happy but I think he expected me to lose more while being here. I think I've been doing alright but to him it's not enough. so I think him leaving is just his way of pushing me to do more then on his next leave in March he will probably beg his way back.
What you are saying sounds like you were "fat" before you met this guy; which would make him a child and a coward. If he weren't into thick girls he should have made it known from the outset, instead of leading you on.
One of the hardest lessons we as humans can be asked to learn is making sure that the person we let into our lives appreciates and loves us as and for who we are before committing ourselves to that person in a relationship.
It's strange he says he loves you but he breaks up the day he is leaving. It's convenient to him. He got the whole holiday to get accostumed to the idea of breaking up while he left you with no time to deal with this.
This is not something someone who loves you would do.
You are not worthless. You are willing to make big sacrifices for the person you love. Find someone who is capable of doing the same for you.
Wow first of all that guy is a shithead. 'I can't work if you can't fix yourself' disgusting. It's not like your just going to a lot of weight in a very short amount of time. Plus nothings wrong with a little extra fat (good for keeping you warm in the winter ;) ) but now, just focus in your self. And then show of that body to the guy that deserves not only your body, but you as A Person. You are a strong woman, you can do this! X
He’s not the one for you ! Find a man that doesn’t matter how you look or how much you weigh. FIGHT FOR HIM? No mam I wouldn’t. He seems like he’s embarrassed to be seen with you.. you can work hard and loose weight ONLY if you want to but not because someone else told you to.
He sounds like a jerk. There are better guys out there.
yeh i definitely have bad taste x
@Maria537 are you willing to change your taste?
@Dionigi I need too! I want to settle down one day
Ok, it's not difficult. You must know them very well (even those you don't like) and accept them. You can't suppress them.
After that you can control and maybe change your taste
He sounds like a dick. I mean if he cared about you or your health, he would have stayed with you. Exercising is so much easier when you have someone in your corner. I can't speak for you, but heartache either makes me eat more or not at all. Neither one is a healthy option.
What country are you in. Go out meet people. Use the meet up app. No one should ever feel lonely, nor should anyone ever feel worthless. YOU'RE NOT WORTHLESS. He wasn't worthy of you!
From here you have two options. Turn your sadness into anger to fuel for exercising. To become fit and hot as ####. Then you go back to him and greet him like and friend (basically show him what he missed out on). Or get someone better
I'm sorry, fuck him. There are people out there like me who love the exxxtra fat and will treat you like gold.
That's a shitty thing to do and he's not worth it.
Work out because you want to feel better not for anything else.
Thank you. You're right I'll continue to work on myself and forget about him. x
Girl, it’s not you. All soldiers cheat when they’re deployed. He wanted to make himself feel better for doing that. Dump his sorry backside and never look back.
All I can say is that u should feel blessed that this happened! Relieves u of ur burden to have to deal with him bc girl, u deserve better! That's messed up..
I didn't read all of it but he sounds like an asshole. He found you that way so he should love you that way. I'm guessing your better off without this douche bag
If u have to prove yourself to him it shows you would never be good enough
You are not fat... he has a fat brain and a black heart
Better off without that. You want someone who will accept you for you. What a douchebag. Good riddance.
God loves you for who you are. And so do right-minded individuals who deserve to be in your life.
If he can't help you at your lowest he doesn't deserve you when are up
Just focus on you and keep moving forward
Compare the comments you have to comments here. No body ever said she's a bitch. Is it fair to break up with a guy just because he has small dick? ↗ You know you can control yourself. Life is unfair they say.
You can make yourself thin you know. And people say "she has the right to break up with me" He's not a jerk. It's no bodies fault. Get over it.
Sounds like a waste of time. Try to just be single, life is so much more enjoyable and liberating