Only if we ended on an ultimatum. I never take those back.
There was a girl on this site i spoke to a few years ago, we had great conversations until she assumed i did things for a reason i didn't. It happened a few times and she let her projection get the better of her. She threatend to block me over it, to which i told her that it was obviously not what she was assuming and that if she wanted to continue talking at a later point or needed some time i'd be fine with it but if she cut contact and blocked me she would never talk to me again. She blocked me, and so did i ensuring she was never going trough the pain of her projection again. That block remains on my account forever as i never go back on my word in those cases.
But if we ended on good terms i can even stay friends with someone, sometimes they are great and all is well but you just can't work out a future together. Its a shame to completely end things with such a great person so its definitely not something i'd destroy.
I was friends with my ex for sometime after we split, but as soon as she found a new guy, she cut me off completely. So my concern in future would be that staying friends would invariably end in the same outcome. Seems that women will be friends with a guy when it's convenient, but not when it might interfere with some other opportunity. Hopefully I'm just being pessimistic and the reality is actually more positive than this, but I don't wanna be hurt by a situation like that again, so I suppose it's just made me more self-protective
No, I think it's healthy to clear out doubts you have with your ex and express your failures, your ex failures, to understand the breakup was for the best and not the worst. When you follow the 0 contact method from the start, that's nothing more than pretending that there is nothing to clear up with who you shared intimate things.
It depends... sometimes, well probably most of the times, there is simply nothing left to connect you - which in turn depends on what happened between the couple. At others there might be something to hang on to, wether it is material, a child, or simple emotions. And sometimes, the intention might be there and it can be sincerely desired by both people to stay in touch, but then life happens... I know it can be hard to keep a bridge standing tough, and you must be willing to repair it from time to time... at least this is the case with my only ex we still have contact (But I wouldn't want it any other way)
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I can't totally understand what you mean. Thanks for the post. 🔥❤️🔥
I mean that with some guys you simply don't want to have a connection after you break up. Maybe because it was a bad relationship or a bad break up...
With some guys you might say that "I want to keep a connection" and you might actually do it at first but after a few months or so conversations become more rare and eventually you stop talking to each other.
And sometimes there are things that force you to keep a connection wether you want it or not, like a child for example, or having common property e. g. a house that you want to sell...
But if you truly want to keep a connection you have to work for it. You have to "remember" to text or call the other person, you have to be able to calm down sparks that might be still there and from time to time decide to pop up again, you have to be able to control your feelings... I know it was hard at first with my one ex that we still have contact with. And if he hadn't been so persistent we probably wouldn't be talking now.
I've never liked the idea of not letting go of someone when I'm supposed to move forward without them by my side. Keeping them in my life would nurture an emotional attachment to them that I don't want or need. I've never found any good reason to keep an ex in my life, but I've always found good reasons to sever ties and turn the page.
Not if there is no need to. The whole trend of cutting people off even when things don't end badly for no reason, is immature and unnecessary in my opinion. Obviously if you aren't comfortable being around each other that can't be helped, but I see a lot of people do it because they think they may be seen as weak or passive.
Its not a good way to build your romantic network unless you have a jealous boyfriend who wants you to cut off contact but I have been tempted to do it as a way of getting revenge for mistakes made by others
Yes but when it comes to ex's there is no bridge to burn when I'm dont I'm dont if we wasn't good enough to be together the we're not good enough to remain friends that just gonna complicate shit let keep it simple you live your life and I'll live mine
REALLY depends on why we ended up becoming exes to begin with. I mean, if it's obvious the relationship isn't working out, like one of us has more pressing matters or have things that the other can't deal with, but we still care for each other, alright then we'll just stop dating, but we can still be friends! But if I catch you cheating on me, doing highly illegal things, or just plain damn being a bitch, well... *Whips out a flamethrower.* It's burninating time.
Yes. Mostly tho.. it can help them to move & grow their personal life forward. For online case.. how come ghosters always be the bad guys/girls? Stalkers are real & scary, and some people just can't take a simple no/stop for an answer 😅
My experience yes. Once my exs leave they are gone forever. Dont need drama in my life. Nor do I want their jealousy in my life. They tend to be awful and inkind to me.
They maybe an ex for a reason but you’ve been with them and for certain amount of time you spend together you learn a lot from them. That made you who you are today.
I'm only friends with 1 ex. We ended it on good terms. All the rest I've cut out completely and moved on rather easily. My ex fiance and I share 1 kid so I can't just forget she exists no matter how much I want too.
You shouldn'f burn bridges with anyone who isn't holding you down. Stay cool with an ex, and you just might have a place to crash next time you're in town.
Nope. You never know when you will have to depend on that person in the future. I read a very good quote: "I never burn my bridges: I loosen the bolts each day"
I believe unless there’s a child involved, severing all ties is a good idea when it comes to exes, at least for a time. However to me, severing ties and burning bridges mean two different things. Severing all ties can be done amicably without drama, spite, or bad-blood. It can be done quietly and discreetly without theatrics. Burning bridges means there is a blow up, fuck yous were slung, and possibly vengeance enacted. It’s better to sever ties and retain your class and integrity.
I think it's meeting Women at the wrong place and that was a Partial Hospitalization Program and you meet people with similar mental illnesses so got to be careful and i met both of my ex girlfriends at them programs.
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