I'm losing hope that my ex will come back...how do I handle this?

[Anonymous]

Its been 5 months since he broke up with me, 3 months since NC. The last thing he told me was that he was happier with his life and that he could no longer see the person he fell in love with and for that reason he knew he could never be with me again. I was devastated, but told him I understood. From that day on, its been NC. Before that, whenever we did have contact, he was always yelling and being mean to one another.

Anyways, I've always held on to a small bit of hope because I know that sometimes people change their mind even though he seemed very adamant about it. I've had an ex come back after 4 years, but only for 3 days so I know it is IMPOSSIBLE, but highly unlikely. I used to have this "gut" feeling that I Haven't heard the last from him, but that "gut" feeling is quickly fading.

I'm def not over him. I think of him all the time, wish that I would've done things diff. However, I also know that he was a BIG BIG JERK not only to me but my family. So I know I SHOULDN'T WANT to be with him, but I do. I try to stay as busy as I can, but that doesn't mean he just slips from my mind.

I guess what I'm asking is how can I let go of the past and stop blaming myself, how can I finally let him go and stop being bothered that he has this "great" life now. And...is it at all possible that maybe, just maybe, he could still come back? Is it too soon to give up completely? Thanks guys!

[ilisamay]

I don't believe he is going to come back to you, sorry for saying it but 5 months is a long time and 3 months of nc is a really long time you need to cut your losses now and realize it's over for good unfortunately, you need to remember his bad points more all the arguments you've ever had, and all the things he did that annoyed you. When someone leaves you and hurts you the mind can play tricks and make you believe you want him more than you do. Think about it if he came and asked you to get back with him and you did how long do you honestly believe you'd be happy for? He hurt you let you down and made you feel less about yourself, after 5 months you should be dating again and should date won't be long til you find his replacement and he will prob make you more happy :)