If you broke up with your partner and you were both invited to a party, what would you do?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Would you go? Would you go only if your ex didn't come? Or would you go and ignore them?

Don't worry, this is not my case. Or better - it's the case of a couple of friends who I invited to a very important event next week. Far from me to meddle in other people's private lives, but since it's a very important event and the spots are counted due to Covid, I had to reach them out to learn about what they intended to do.
Apparently the break up is mutual and amicable, so they'll both come without issue, although she was a bit annoyed the guy told me because she wanted to keep it hush until after the event to "not ruin it".
I reassured her they didn't ruin anything and to not worry.

[Cynicaldreamer]

If it was a party or event I wanted to go to, of course I'd go!

I would go alone, or invite a friend along instead.

As for the ex? That's his business if he goes or not since we're no longer together, haha. If anyone asks, I will tell them the truth: we're no longer together. I know how to act like a lady, so obviously I'm not going to make a scene if he attends. I will either ignore him, or politely greet him and keep going.

Now if it's a party I didn't want to go to? Sounds like our breakup is the perfect excuse not to go!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I think it would depend on the break up and how soon after it was. And also what kind of event it was. A bigger event like a wedding where it's easier to not have a much contact with them would be different than say a house party or small dinner party where you're in close contact.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Very true, you are wise in distinguishing the different situations and changing course of action based on that. Thank you for sharing!

[jennifer_bloom]

I avoided events in my university because I did not want to run unto the guy I used to date but we broke on bad terms, if we had ended on good terms I would go to the event, unless I was afraid of seeing him with other woman, than I’d stay home.

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Haha got an even worse situation I went through... my ex cheated on me a week before I was to stand in Kates wedding.. Tyler my ex slept with Megan who was also standing in the wedding.. Kate and Megan were cousins Kate knew it happened.. I also never stood in a wedding before so was kinda excited.. I told Kate that it has nothing to do with her and I could keep things under control they were in the wrong.. not me.. Megans boyfriend Cory (since Megan and him share a son who was the ring barer) was also there who she cheated on so when I wasn't doing bridesmaids duties I was drinking with him.. I didn't know anyone.. when he suggested getting even us having sex to get back at them I said no two wrongs dont make a right.. went and talked with guy who walked down the isle with me when he mentioned he brought a tent abd hed love to see what was under the dress that Tyler was stupid to cheat on me he never would.. I went to Kate asked if I was needed for anything else she said no and called a cab since I was drunk to go home next day my dad drove me to my car. I can be civil but dont expect me to be chummy ran into Megan years later she asked if we could be friends again she never had a friend as good as me... we were best friends told details with each other I never told anyone.. I said next time think about who you sleep with didn't care about me then and I should care now? What do you want to do sleep with the man I have now? I think not.. you can say I won't I promise all you want my trust is in you like if I dropped this glass bottle of juice it float in the air no thanks now ring through my shit

[DJB72]

Party? Just don't go.

I was invited to WEDDINGS just after my ex and I split - and were sat next to each other.

This happened just after both my first AND second relationships broke up.

I couldn't exactly refuse.

Worst. Time. Ever.

Including having my leg amputated.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Exactly, that's the kind of situation I want to avoid.
Also, I remember you talking about your leg, I hope you are doing better now.

[DJB72]

Physically I'm doing OK thanks. It's taking time to get fully used to the prosthetic but in my chair I'm keeping up with my toddler son's running.

[NathanDavis]

I really don't know about bad breakups since I never had one but I would still go, since you said it's very important for the host, and they mean something to me... I would not want to miss it "just because" someone is in the vicinity, I can be an adult... lol.

[Coulis]

If it was a party I really wanted to attend or a good friend was expecting me to be present for I would go alone without them if I wasn't able to bring soemone else.

If I didn't even really want to go, it's a geat excuse to skip out.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

If they wanted to come as well, would you still go?

[Coulis]

See that depends.

If it were a close circle of friends and it was an intimate dinner, I wouldn't want the party to get ruined and make the vibe awkward.

In that case I would ask them if they were going wanted to go and then decide.

People not knowing if the need to pick a side blah blah blah.

If it was a rager with a whole bunch of people that I really wanted to attend, etc. then yeah l, I would go.

[Coulis]

Didn't read properly, if it were intimate I would ask the host if she would prefer only one ofnus come to avoid awkwardness.

[Anonymous]

I’d go to stop my ex from making lies about me, our breakup wasn’t very good and I called her out on a lot of crap she did even before we broke up, she didn’t like me calling her out on it all so she’s trying to spread crap about me and has her mother doing it to but I’ve got more than enough proof

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I'm sorry about that, I hope you are doing better now!

[libsaretards]

I would attend the event. The event is for my friend, not my ex. I will never allow my grudge against an ex to affect my relationships with other people. I would ignore her. If she approached me, I would tell her to go away and go to another part of the room.

[FlutteringFeelings]

It would be awkward but I wouldn’t do much. I had a situation where I ended things and I ended up running into him at a grocery store. It was so awkward and there’s so much to the story. I pretend I don’t see that individual and mind my business.

[exitseven]

I would make plans to be out of state for the whole weekend.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Maybe go into the wilderness?

[exitseven]

Yes, I would hitchhike near the Canadian border and camp out in a big field away from civilization.

[Account]

I don't like parties in general. But if for some reason I wanted to go, I would go, regardless if my ex was there.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Depends on the relationship I have with the one that invited me. More than likely I will keep my visit short or maybe I get a number or two. However, I don't plan to talk to an ex.

[SynthKobra]

Not if it was recent. It would have to be a pretty sweet party for me to go and even then, I know I wouldn’t have a good time there.

[pleasestopthis]

If we break up amicably and there's no hard feelings between us, yes, maybe. If I'm hurting badly I don't go, it could be a terrible mess

[JosyJosy]

I don't care if he is invited too or not, I would only think 'oh party', I'd go

[Marhaban-1]

I would go if I knew other people there. They won't ruin it for me.

[TacosRAwesome]

I'd go depending on whether I'm closer than him to organisers or I'm looking hot or trash.

[MrJMM]

Parties not my thing. Also the time I was on a wedding I was asked to babysit 15 kids. As a freaking 14 year old.

[Wiredone]

It would depend on the terms of our breakup. I'd still go to the party

[Coolkat12345]

I would go because I would try to fix our relationship and use it as an opportunity to makes things right again.

[Poppykate]

Are you finally getting married? That’s wonderful!

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Thank you!
I didn't wish to make big announcements here, but we are getting married next week, on Friday 4th.
We will just do the civil ceremony with very few people. When restrictions will be lifted, we'll renew our vows in a bigger ceremony with more invitations.

[Poppykate]

Congratulations! I wish you both all the very best.

[Poppykate]

Everyone has issues. If you excluded everyone that was dealing with some sort of personal problem... no one would come. It is nice of you to care about how it might impact the special day of you and your fiancée.