Why does my ex keep sending me hateful, mean texts?

[Anonymous]

I broke up with my ex because he never had time for us anymore. I discussed with him several times and it just didn't get better. So instead of staying angry all the time I decided it was time to move on. I still love and care for him, but I was tired of arguing. Since the breakup he has been very hateful and mean. He went from admitting to knowing he ignored me to saying I abandoned him. He keeps sending mean text saying I should prove to him that I care for him etc. He says if I want to be his friend that I need to prove it. I did prove I cared for months I truly tried everything I could. Why does he keep sending hateful text and telling me these things.

[Anonymous]

Why would you even try to prove anything? By the way, you took the right decision to leave because he's not good for you. If I were you, I'd completely ignore his messages/calls/etc..Let him cool down away from you. If you respond, he'll be more hateful and resentful towards you & it will become harder to get rid of him.

[Opinion Owner]

& why is he doing this? to get a response out of you. Probably, he's a controller & a manipulator that wants to have the last word. By you leaving, you hurt him badly. He doesn't want you back. He just wants to control you & hurt you. Just ignore him, please.

[Asker]

thank you! I agree with you. I have chosen to just not reply. Because no matter what I say or how nice I try to be he comes back with anger. He blew me off for 2 months, except when he wanted certain things. Our whole relationship was on his terms. I was loyal, loving and kind. But I got tired of being alone. HIs behavior is a little shocking. But I agree its about control. I'm younger than him, which he always reminds me of, and I think he is shocked that I actually walked away.

[Opinion Owner]

Reminds me of my ex. You're better off dear :)

[oxidizer235]

b/c he's trying to guilt you and control you