Best advice for divorce?

[Anonymous]

Married over 20 years to a cowardly bully. He said he's leaving in 3 years. I'm all too happy about it and now he is trying to undo his threat. I'll be holding the door wide open for him.

Meanwhile, what should I do to prepare? I don't have money or skills, I've been isolated from friends and family all these years, I don't have a single friend to confide in. He checks on on me several times a day, so whatever I do will have to be on the sly.

He never wanted me to work, so he's been the breadwinner. I'm going to be in a heap of financial trouble.

Forget working it out. I will never be attracted to him romantically again for a multitude of reasons.

Any advice on what steps I can and should take or resources that are available?

[normalice]

He's definitely not going to leave voluntarily. But there are government programs availible for people in situations like yours, depending on which state you are in. If it's a deep red state you may be SoL, though..

[Asker]

Thank you. Where do I look? I know that sounds crazy, but I'm not a social media user (I recently stumbled on this site).

[normalice]

For one thing, if he divorces you there should be some alimony. Cases like yours are why alimony exists.

But there are also domestic violence shelters.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Best thing you can do is get a good lawyer. You are entitled to half of everything.

[Asker]

Thank you. There isn't much because he put our house in his dad's name... just in case I ever tried to leave.

[TommyMountainFigure]

A good lawyer might STILL get you half of the house, if you can prove he did so to circumvent you receiving half.

[Asker]

That would be all I need to get on my feet. Thank you for your advice.

[TommyMountainFigure]

you're welcome.
In the UK there are lawyers that offer free consultation. You would be able to ask them questions like that before they took the case. Find out if they also do so where you live.