For those who have ever had to end a relationship, what was "The Last Straw"?

[exitseven]

What did he/she do that made you realize you had to end the relationship?

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We had a long distance relationship for 3 years. We had talked of marriage. The whole time she was put very little effort into our relationship. I wrote her these long letters at least once a week. If I got one from her once during a semester it was a big deal. This gave me doubts. I went 1500 miles to see her and it was the same crap. She made no effort to make my visit special. She worked the whole week so we did not even spend much time together.
When I went home I stopped writing her to see

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If she would do anything. I did not hear from her for 5 months. I called her late one Saturday night and broke up with her over the phone. She said that we should just get married. She just did not get it.

[Anonymous]

With my relationships, it had always been a build-up with several things. But what made me take the final decision for them was:

1. When he got over after some time apart, I felt that I hadn't missed him or was really happy to see him.

2. He really wanted to give me a gift and talked about planning a trip while I was away and I felt like I was distancing and avoiding his attempts. So we broke up in the end.

3. All my doubts began to crash down. I could feel I had physically been avoiding him and I felt pressured because there was a month or so before we were going on a trip to another country with his family. And it all just culminated in me not eating for two days and taking a looooong walk, thinking about what to do until I thought it might be best to break it off.

4. I just finally had enough. It was yet another fight. and I finally just... broke. I was done. Best decision ever. It was a horrible and incredibly bad relationship for my health. I knew it through most of the relationship, I just needed the last push and it finally came. The last words we wrote was:
Him: I don't know what to do anymore
Me: I don't know either...
Me: I'll get my things tomorrow.

Especially 2 and 3 were really good guys. And good boyfriends. 4 was a manipulative jerk.

[dillbill561]

Hey did you realize all of your decisions were based purely on emotions? I’m not trying to disrespect or anything like that I’m just wondering maybe you thought these were actual reasons. In fact I like it some people would say you gave up or whatever being in tune with your feelings is great. I just see this often and especially in this age everyone is so hard pressed with only reasoning maybe you thought this actually was a reason alone.

Just take note of what I said please because to gain reasoning will be a huge boon for your life and will start to sift out all of this waste because of your strong emotional abilities.

[Opinion Owner]

@dillbill561 Yeah a lot of it is based on emotions. I don't know what else to decide from when it comes to relationships. Isn't my feelings an indication of whether it's good or not?

[AmandaYVR]

The one time he was physically violent. Never trusted him again.

[exitseven]

that shit won't fly with me either.

[dillbill561]

Realized she never gave a fuck when she couldn’t be nice and go without screaming and yelling even though it was my birthday. She didn’t respect or like to listen to me and the abuse was just a way of control. It was a long list of things but that boiled to a head for me I was just able to figure out I was being played and in that moment I finally realized it was never going to change that the only thing which was my fault was letting it continue. For example if you asked her she would just say we were not even in a relationship, these people spin everything they can knowing that they are the ones at fault, so she would go further saying that I was the abusive one (pure bullshit).

[Slartybartfast]

Probably telling me they were going out of town and sleeping with my Best friend on valentines day.

To be fair to him , she told him we had broken up and he spent a lot of money on her so he got used as well. (Not that I ever spoke to him again)

She was my first girlfriend and it pretty much set the tone for all my relationships after. One reason I stopped dating entirely.

[jennifer_bloom]

I have never ended a romantic relationship but I ended one friendship when a lady slandered me and disrespected me during a trip to see her friends, she had been disrespecting me for years but that final grain pushed me out of her life, we later reconciled but only temporarily.

[YESIMFUNNY]

The moment I wasn't in the mood for sex he got pissed and tried to force me... That's saying a lot because I love sex, but every moment we were together he wanted to get all handsy. Really wouldn't have minded it if it wasn't becoming obsessive, but he was. It made me very uncomfortable.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

I had one who was always jealous, cut me off from all my friends who were female..

One day I called a childhood friend - we were close our whole lives and my girlfriend at the time just lost it and started screaming at me. I realized that I can stay and endure this nonsense the rest of my life, or get the fuck out and run like hell and live my own life on my terms.

I live my life how I want. Anyone who wants to be a part of it does so on my terms, not theirs.

[Starrisunset]

He cheated on me and he was trying to get his ex and her kids to move in with him while we were dating. Needless to say I had a pretty good reason for ending things lol.

[SandandWaves]

being taken for granted.. .. didn't really realize until later--but, ended it, I felt way better afterwards.

[SandandWaves]

just realized what group this was in..
I was talking about.. who I thought was a friend, who was a girl

[Ram0n83]

She decided to broadcast our split on Facebook about a week after telling me that she was interested in working things out. Judging by her behavior afterward (e. g. not getting the last of her things from my place, wanting to keep a joint phone account, etc.), it seemed like she didn't think that was the final straw. But it was for me.

[TrueConfection]

The time he was shoving me around. That did it for me.

[DizzyDesii]

When i give them the chance to change and they temporarily do but revert back to their old ways that same week/month. Thats almost always the final straw for me

[Titanya]

He took me for granted. didn't appreciate me at all. Went back to doing the same bad habits even after we discussed that it wasn't good for either of us.

[Anonymous]

She came over to my place and we were laying in bed together.
I asked her "If we actually get back together are you still going to cheat?"
She paused and said "I don't know."
That's how I knew she was hooked on someone else at that point and it was over between us.
I told her to leave in the middle of the night.
She was pissed, but I don't care.
Bye bitch.

[Anonymous]

I’m anticipating ending my marriage. The last straw was him calling me a slut in front of our daughters because I had a day visit with some guy friends from high school. I just don’t know when to file…

[far2gud4u]

I hope you have done this already

[Anonymous]

Uhhh.. he was hypersexual, I had to end it after I woke up to him trying to have sex with me while I was struggling with adjusting my medication.

[muscularbumblebee]

It was toxic to the point I worried when our next argument was and I always felt put down. It wasn’t just his fault it was also mine but when it ended we both felt weight off our shoulders

[Anonymous]

I had to end the relationship because she threatened to kill herself. Popped 13 pills in front of me and I couldn't stay in that much of a toxic relationship...

[ananias55]

She wouldn't blow. Even after she said she would for me. And after weeks of her pushing me away from any sexual advances. I just got fed up. 5 weeks wasted.

[Anonymous]

I had lost so much of myself by giving everything I could into the relationship it made me miserable.

[Anonymous]

He was a nice guy, but was so boring to be around. I just couldn't deal with it any longer.

[Lillie_xo]

uhh
when i stopped pretending how she treated me was normal and okay.

[LonewolfMeme]

Them calling me a bitch and confirming them cheating on me, as well as not understanding their own emotions (different relationship).

[NightHawk99]

When it became obvious I was being cheated on AND cheated with. Nobody needed to tell me anything. I just saw people's faces when certain things were said.