fights are a sign of emotional issues turning up in the relationship. the content of those is relevant. The communication in those is relevant. If they are pms related, that's another matter.
I think we need more information and you need more introspection on what happened to sort it out. Love is... a battlefield at times, in both of you. It just brings out stuff that you didn't know existed and you have to work through to get to the other sunshine on the other side.
Taken advantage of would be her riding your financially or dangling around while already bailed out. Being there would be thinking through what is going on in her and you and trying to work it through.
If she's on dating site, then she's trying to fill the pain with pleasure from someone else or she's done.. given she isn't talking. It sounds like she is avoidant of dealing with whatever feelings she is trying to ignore. Maybe she doesn't feel worthy of being loved. Hard to say. You two have to really communicate, talk to a therapist to cleanup the mess. that's hard when the other one can't handle the pain or doesn't feel is being heard.
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Well you have to set boundaries within every relationship... yeah some people have issues that create a burden on the other person within any relationship, the good and the bad. But at some point if you find yourself in a position where you feel you are giving more than you are receiving then you have do some some self reflection and that and decide if this is the person or relationship you want. You can't be everything and anything for someone else no matter the cost. Ultimately relationships are transactional.
Looks like you were more interested in her than she was into you. Sorry I know it sucks. It may not seem like it now but you’ll move on and be ok.
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The good news is that you’re still young. It’s not good to be with someone who is ambivalent about being with you, so it is best that you split up. You can find a woman who enthusiastically wants to be with you now.
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Sounds like u was trying to force a broken situation into working
It's not you she's fighting.
it's herself she's fighting.
there is nothing you can do about it unfortunately. You can try and help but it will be in vain.
let her go. You did what you could. And what you did was right.She sounds bipolar to me.
You may have dodged a.50 bullet.Time to move on. Sounds like you dont have any other options on the horizon?
Does she return the favor? Is she there for you?
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