Who is more likely to see an ex as less than human after breaking up with them when no major violations were committed (e. g. cheating, abuse, etc.)?

[Anonymous]

I am not talking about “hating” your ex. I’m talking about complete indifference. Like they never existed.

Curious about the results.

Men can discard women they no longer find valuable quickly.

Women can discard men they no longer find valuable quickly

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One other detail. Everybody knows about man whores and selfish gold diggers and/or promiscuous girls who ride the “cock carousel”. They make up maybe less than 5% of the population. But their brazen actions stick in peoples minds more so they seem more common than they really are.

I am talking about otherwise normal men and women. When they lose romantic interest for unfortunate but not fundamental reasons (partner is cheating, abuse, being truly psycho, severe substance abuse problems, etc)?

[Anonymous]

Men.

[Asker]

If their players. Yes.

[Opinion Owner]

Not always...

Things didn't work out and you just have to accept that reality and get over it. I think more men have an easier time doing this. (at least from what I have observed)

[Opinion Owner]

But there really isn't a correct answer to these types of questions, being that it's just speculation. People can only answer according to their own personal experiences.

[Asker]

I used to believe the same thing when I was younger. And yes, you are right that there is no uniform correct answer.

But remember on a DNA level women are attracted to men who can protect and provide for them. Men are respected for their agency i. e: what value they can bring to the woman. Does he have respectable job, make good money, is he interesting, does he make her laugh/feel good, is he attractive and/or good in bed? Once she no longer feels like he’s of any benefit somewhere above he’s discardable. A fleeting memory. He’s now just a distraction or an obstacle.
It doesn’t matter what she said to him in the past (e. g. I love you) because that was just a reflection of her emotions in the moment.

Men on the other hand are taught that women are emotional “delicate” creatures. Sure some men have no problem moving on but overall men often feel more guilty after breaking up with a woman. Even if we lost physical attraction to her or she behaved in a way that really turned him off.

[Opinion Owner]

... How and why am I stuck on anon? (typing to myself)

But yeah, that makes sense. Honestly, I haven't given this much thought. The norm seems to be hating your ex and never shutting up about them, even after people are in a new relationship and claim to be happy.

[Asker]

Nah opposite of love isn’t hate. Hate is still an emotion. It’s love corrupted but it’s indicative that they had real power/influence on at some point and they have a slow healing wound over it.

Nah the opposite of love is actually indifference. Oddly having someone treat me indifferently after a relationship is more painful than being hated. You have zero relevance to their existed. You are less than human to them.

Anyway I went down the rabbit hole here. This is all different story if someone did something legitimately shitty though.

Anyway nice chatting.

[Asker]

*existence

[Opinion Owner]

Something to think about. Nice chatting with you as well.