How do you heal from being led on?

[Anonymous]

Idc what anybody says about “time heals all wounds”. The idea that one day my broken heart would magically go away motivated me to keep living. But the sad reality is that it’s been years and I don’t act on how my heart feels, I don’t speak on how my heart feels, I laugh still, I learn how to pretend to be okay, I date people, I try to have healthy expectations where I feel a reasonable doubt and a reasonable amount of trust as well for each person I meet. But the harsh truth is that at the core, the damage was done. And it never went away.

[William7489]

You just Have to do two things. you have to have closure and let the other person know exactly what they did to you and how you feel about it. I’m not one of these guys that pretends that you have to acting indifferent to look tough and stoic. For example, it happened to me once and I tried that. All I ended up doing was wasting three weeks just seething inside. Finally, I just got in touch with this girl and opened up and told her what I really felt, how I felt about her And how this type of behavior prevents people from even being friends in the future.


After you get closure, it just takes time. I’m sorry it doesn’t get any more complex than that, but seriously it just takes time. Being led on is almost like being cheated on because the other person is deliberately lying and misleading you for a long period of time for an ulterior motive. They have no concern for your time, feelings or mental/emotional well-being. To them , you’re only a means to an end. They will discard you like trash when they’re done with you. You can really leave a scar when you realize that this person really had no feelings for you and was simply using you for some other reason. Please believe me when I tell you this one thing: Stay away from people like this.

[Guy13]

Forgive yourself from “being a sucker”. Forgive him for being an Ass. Suffer and with through it WITHOUT body hopping into a rebound Guy who has no clue how angry you are etc.

Improve yourself via education gym job standing etc

[Jdjfjcjj]

I think it's common for people to want to heal in the short term but fail to heal in regards to understanding and fixing the things they did wromf before starting a new relationship.

It's far more productive to think about how your actions may have allowed it to happen. Each time you just blame the other person, even if they 95% in the wrong, you just get more and more jaded and bring with you a negative mindset.

[In_Trance]

Except accountability for your own actions and judgments.
In other words don't let it happen again

[Anonymous]

Time. You'll get over it... in time.

[nevermind53]

Just time