Should you check your exes social media?

Question

It might depend on the ex and how it affects the person but do you think is there a time or healing process to check on their social media ?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

For a start, all my Ex's social media's are private. So I don't have access.
Secondly I don't see a reason to check, regardless how the breakup was. Even i wasn't in a relationship I would feel the need. But if it pops up my accident (Say suggestions, mutual friends) etc, if I even look, I'm just looking at their private page that only counts how many post, Followers and followings they have, and that's no purpose for me. Plus I won't be looking because I am curious or whatever. Because i won't care anymore. That's why time to time, they send a DM, i delete without even opening it. As long as non was narcissist, I don't see a point of blocking any as I find blocking someone childish behaviour. Plus it gives them the idea that I am weak and can't stand them, that's why I block. I don't need headache. I just need peace!

BCA6010 · Accepted Answer

Not only no, but you should usually cut yourself off from an ex entirely and block communications. Sometimes that isn't needed depending on the circumstances of the breakup, but it's really not healthy or worthwhile trying to keep up with exes.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

When my ex ended our relationship I was heartbroken for 3 years. I just couldn't move in.

One day, I decided to check out his FB account. I was devastated to see he was in a happy and loving relationship with someone else. I could see pictures of them together, and he posted comments to her about how much he loved her , and how she'd always be the only woman for him.

Even though this hurt me to the core , it was also what helped me finally let go and move on. Because for 3 years I clung to the false hope that he missed me and we would one day get back together. That was just an illusion I'd created in my head because I still loved him so much.

Gradually my pain eased and my feelings faded. So it was checking his social media account that helped heal my heart.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

No. Once he gains the "ex" status, I distance myself from him as much as possible so I can move on.

I used to the "that idiot" that checked on a guy's page after we broke up. It just made me feel WORSE, especially when he started dating someone new!

Now when someone is an ex? Block, delete, don't even acknowledge I wasted time on him, and try to recover.

BlueScorpio · Answer

No, I feel like it's bit weird.. like why am I doing this? It makes me feel creepy lol but sometimes your curious just to see what they been up to and not so much cause you miss then or want them back unless you're not over them.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I don’t check because I think it’s bad for my mental health to cling to somebody that is not fully interested in me now.

desperatelyhungry · Answer

If you’re actively trying to get over them, no. I’m
Not proud to admit that when I have an ex, romantically or a friend, I’m bad about stalking their socials repeatedly. Eventually I have to tell myself, ok no checking their accounts for a week. Then a week turns to two, then a month. Eventually I’ll
Allow myself to stalk my old exes and friends every 6-7 months, as I don’t think twice a year is too bad, but if I don’t keep strict limits I will easily get back into stalking constantly

boredgal · Answer

I check my ex's social media, at first it felt weird like, how can someone you really know becomes just a person you stalk on Facebook? I thought that I'm going to be miserable when he finds someone else but I didn't feel that way, I was really actually happy for him. I still check his timeline now, and the more I do, the more I realise that we're really not meant for each other.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I don’t have any bad feelings toward my exes, nor do I have any romantic feelings for them. I check up on their social media profiles out of curiosity from time to time, just to see how they are doing. I don’t think I’m doing anything inappropriate with that.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on how long you two dated and who essentially initiated the break up and for what reason (s). I think it’s a good way to gauge whether if you’re really moved or or not. The more you check it, the more you should understand you haven’t moved on and should not entertain any dating prospects. If you check it less or not at all, then it’s safe to say you moved on or is starting to.

Ill_made_Knight · Answer

Nah. If you choose to split and follow different paths I think it's best for my emotional health to sever contact unless there is some good reason for maintaining ties... just seems like stuff like that slow down the healing process

Alexa41991 · Answer

I don't think it's a good idea, I think is best that you don't check it. Just focus on yourself and not what your ex is doing, heal yourself and you will see that you don't need to check your ex profile.

katiesmuff · Answer

No it's none of your business and you should leave it alone. With a little luck he has grown up and not messing around with such childish things as social media

irifebeck · Answer

Not really, pretty rarely. Only when I realize I haven’t heard about them in so long then I check to see how they’re doing and then I don’t think about it for another three years.

bubblegunnn · Answer

Hhhhh.. i hate to say this but yeah.. i did because i still had a feeling for him but time goes by, i moved on and stop checking him..  Unless i dont love him anymore, i didn't check his socmed

WhitneySnow · Answer

Don’t stalk them and don’t cause yourself pain by doing that. Other than that it’s cool to do it once in a while just to see how they’re doing.

jshm2 · Answer

I still speak, and get on, with all my ex's. The secret is not to be a fuckwit, and to always be amicable during the split.

Blackcupcake · Answer

nope… I don’t use any of the known social medias first of all, and I’m just simply not that nosy hahaha

Man-O-Metal · Answer

Unless you want to continue adding to your list of "Things that waste my life", then I suggest no.

TroyDT2 · Answer

Why would I? If she's an ex at least one of us found a romantic relationship as a less than ideal fit. If I did, I would have no interest in her activities. If she did, I accept it and move on.

Fireguy17 · Answer

nope they are an ex for a reason, and I really don't care what they are doing because it no longer involves me, hence the ex part.

Saltystardust · Answer

Nope. The only time I see it as remotely okay, is if there's a paternity possiblity.

EvilAngel114 · Answer

Don’t see a point. I’ve moved on and I would hope and assume he has too.

DiegoO · Answer

Now and then I don't see anything wrong with it, if your ex don't block you, or if you discretely want to know how your ex is doing, without asking her.

Surely · Answer

If he was not paying child or spousal support. Then yes. See what he is doing.  Other than that. Why waste your time? He is an ex for a reason!

Coyote12 · Answer

I did, then I realized I was giving them the attention they wanted and hurting myself in the process. So no more of that!

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

No, they don't even cross my mind until something like this brings them up.

art84 · Answer

If I had a ex girlfriend, I wouldn't be able to as she isn't on social media plus if she had social media it would probably be set to private.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

No, there lives are no longer my business. If they are struggling with the break up and need more closure it’s there responsibility to reach out.

AsaKyo · Answer

There's nothing to really look at, nor do I really care what he does anymore

18Uma21 · Answer

NO! What do you expect to see? Think about the worst and live with that

Anonymous · Answer

I think it’s illegal to login to your exes social media accounts even if you can answer their security questions.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds depressing and overly attached, though my ex doesn't have social media that I know of so I don't know

KMane · Answer

I don’t have social media, I wouldn’t date a girl with social media.

Sukaaa · Answer

Why that's the question

burlen · Answer

For what reason? How would that benefit me?

dustybiker · Answer

That doesn’t sound healthy.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

No. You should move on

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

No. I blocked my exes

worldscolide · Answer

No, my ex is an ex for a reason.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Why dwell on the past, move on.

Anonymous · Answer

What would be the point of that?

Luopio27 · Answer

No point. It only makes matters harder.

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

My first ex I haven't spokennto since 2017.

Wise4myage · Answer

No, I don't waste time on things like that.

FireFox001 · Answer

Never, that is toxic, stupid shit.

MrMatasch · Answer

Yes, i may check my ex sometimes

melanieeeB · Answer

Probably not

Brando10222 · Answer

No, move on

LavLavLuv · Answer

Nope

In_Trance · Answer

Never

ZenJen444 · Answer

No, move on

justFriend · Answer

no wayy :)

Anonymous · Answer

Nope

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