What would you say to the ex who returns after a few months?

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She wanted to break up almost 6 months ago and now she says she wants to try again. But she was the one who left me and I'm not sure if it's right to get together just because she wants now. What would you say to the ex who returns after a few months? That is my main question...

Itsok2behapp-e · Accepted Answer

You say in plain simple English so there can be absolutely no misinterpretation "Fuck you and fuck off!"

Do not let her back into your life under any circumstances.

She wanted to break up almost 6 months ago. However, her new home wasn't ready. Nothing was in place. Hence, she couldn't leave. When everything was in place. Boom! Out of freaking fucking nowhere, she fucking leaves you. No doubt telling you she loved you the very day before, right?

She played her new home but has since realised she didn't like it. Wasn't all what it was cracked up to be.

She can't survive on her fucking own. Hmm. "I know" says she. "He'll have me back."

You. That's who. Whomever she fucked off with doesn't want her. Hence, she wants to find solace in you.

She justs wants a roof over her head and you to look after her whilst she resumes fucking behind your back again.

When she finds another prospective home, I guarantee, 100% the fact you take her back, she'll walk out on you once again.

Don't take her back. Tell her to "Fuck you and fuck off!"

Block. Ignore. Let her live her life without you. You'll be much better off. Trust me.

Go live your life and prosper, without her. For you will. Amen.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Depends on the circumstances of the breakup. If the quality of the sex was good, then sure I would think about getting back with her... but dating her long term I mean it all really depends. I mean there were reasons why you broke up before... so it would hard for me to truly emotionally commit to the process with someone I have already gotten over.

So, if she contacted, and I was with nobody else, then sure I would entertain it. At least look to get some sex out of it, and it's things work out them sure maybe.

Helllo123 · Accepted Answer

This is going to be a bit harsh but you are probably an option to her right now because if she’s the one who ended things and is suddenly telling you she wants to try again its only because its not working out with some other guy right now (who she won’t tell you about) so be very careful and play your cards right.

I would say go out with another girl because your ex might be playing a “who will want me” game. The only way to know for sure is if you guys keep going out together without any labels and see if she changes her mind

Ms_Facesitter · Accepted Answer

I don't like being second best. I think he would come back to me either because things with the other girl didn't work out, or he realized what he lost. But he was the one who decided to end things so he must stick to that decision. If he can change his mind on the fly like that he can do it again, and I see that as a red flag.

BlueScorpio · Answer

You wanted freedom, you got it. Now stay free and free away from me is what I tell an ex who tries to come crawling back after whatever/whoever else they where searching for didn't work out.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Give it a go. My girlfriend and I broke up and got back together. It was tough, some battles were waged, but we worked through it. now married and going well.

To be honest... you have to do some serious work as part of this, and should have done during breakup, as to what is going on, why, what do I want, what changes do I want to make. Then try.

If you simply take two 'chemicals' that react badly and run an experiment... and they react, then separate them, then try it again... you get the same result. You are smart enough to know that... but people think something is different. Something has to change, there needs to be a relevalation, epiphany, awakening, come to Jesus, or whatever. Good communication and effort are required and need I say... listening and vulnerability.

That's not easy when you are young, and you are still.

It's your life... you get to make the choices...

Kamiljan1995 · Answer

How do you feel about the break up and are you able to move past it? I bet at a certain point you were wishing she would come back and you still clearly have some feelings for her lurking around if you’re asking this question. You’ve had enough time to think about the good and the bad in the relationship and you’ll know where she would have to improve and if it’s something you’d be happy getting back into. If you still have feelings for her then maybe it’s worth exploring that option but if you’re going to do that, you’d have to do it cautiously and not put all eggs in one basket kinda thing, incase she is only trying to use you to get over someone it didn’t work out with. People do make mistakes though and the break up could have made her realise your true value and how hard it would be to replace you.

either way, be careful with your decision

mstbooblover · Answer

Such a question is not easy to answer, because it depends on the persons' characters, tendencies, and circumstances. I tend to never get back with someone who left me, because my life may very well have taken another path, and because what made her leave would probably not have changed.

On the other hand, there are circumstances where a man, knowing his ex had real difficulties after having left him, would want to help her and let her come back. If the relation was largely based on mutual freedom for both, no problems anyway, but otherwise things may still get awkward.

eagleboss09 · Answer

Well it's not her it's you

Why you think she can come and go whenever she wants to? Why you didn't block and delete?

I know sometimes it's hard to get over relationship but you have to to grow and be wiser and stronger.

She probably thought the grass was Greener on the other side and now she's regret don't ever go back she will leave you again and it you back she will never have respect for you and you will lose yourself too. Stay strong go gym go meet your friends play video games run from that woman

watercolor_lions · Answer

If I were in your position, I would explain I'm not interested in going through the heartache again. She already broke my heart once, and things probably won't be that different.

The truth is, she's probably roved around and tried dating a few other people, and realized she couldn't find any good prospects, so she's coming back to you. That makes you second choice, and you shouldn't settle for that.

SwellStroke · Answer

There is a reason they are an ex. She left for a reason. Who is to say she wouldn't do it again. Also there is a reason it is called the past, because you should walk right past it should it be presented to you again. We are not designed to move backwards when we should be looking and moving forward.

t_time · Answer

I would say...  I'm giving up I know for sure I don't' want to be the reason for your love no more.. Bye bye I'm checking out, I'm signing off I don't want to be the loser, and I've had enough🙂

itsalyssaagain · Answer

It depends on why you broke up and how things ended. Depending on those two factors you can give it another go and it will be awesome or it can just be playing with fire. In that context it would be better to walk away. Only you know the answer to that.

Fireguy17 · Answer

that would be a tough one.
You would have to know the real reason that she left, was it for another guy and it didn't work out so now she doesn't want to be alone so you will do?
Hopefully you can have a heart-to-heart talk and figure it out.
If she doesn't want to talk about it or becomes elusive then I would not take her back, just tell her that you have moved on and wish her well.

Tina19 · Answer

I would say GET LOST to my ex because if i allow him back in my life he will have zero respect for me and it will make him think that i can't have find better than him so i let him back in my life and he might leave me again thinking i will give him more chances in future

TheVigilantOne · Answer

Well my ex was a narcissist and she hurt me mentally and physically, she also tried to stab me and threatened to have me beaten up and my house set on fire, so if she turned up I’d just phone the police and have her arrested, I’d never ever ever have that mess back in my life again.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

So long, goodbye.

Never get back with an ex in this situation. She broke up with you just to have sex with someone else. In all likelihood they hit it and then denied her for a relationship and so you're the safe to go back to option. So have some self respect and say no thanks.

Aggon1998 · Answer

If she has been with another guy in the meantime, I would turn her down.

If she didn't have sex in the meantime, I would have a good talk with her and list your expectations from her as your partner and what she expects from you.

blissinanarchy1 · Answer

I don’t like Andrew Tate. But he made a great point about exes. If she saw noone else, then maybe. If she slept with someone else, no. She only is trying to get back with you after another guy didn’t workout, you’re always second choice

Price511 · Answer

Depends on how bad the breakup was. If we’re still on good terms and there’s still chemistry, why not? If we’re doing bad, then probably not. It’s very simple, really. Good people can make bad choices. It’s simply part of being human.

Rania05 · Answer

The audacity she has, you aren't a piece of cloth she can take off and wear whenever she feels like doings so. For an ex like that say bye and forgets about them

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Depends on the situation and what, exactly, you mean by “returns”. “Hello” should be adequate. “You have ten seconds to get off my property before i open fire” might also be appropriate.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Circumstances matter. However if she left you and came back, whoever she wanted saw her for what she was and kicked her to the curb. Don't open the door for her. Let her carry on as you move on with your life.

CA4444 · Answer

There need to be very good explanations so if you start again you don’t go to the wall and waste your time…

Beatrix7 · Answer

well it all depends on how the broke up in the first place

Literalbillionaire17 · Answer

And send her on her way

es20490446e · Answer

Why did she break up, and why is she coming back now? Is she truly happy of being dating you?

Moose304 · Answer

I know a guy that said he was not the return desk at Macey's. Your mileage may vary!

sheikalana · Answer

I wouldn't say much. There's probably nothing to say at this point.

Juxtapose · Answer

"You didn't want me then, I'm not your 2nd choice. You showed me I'm not a priority, so leave."

akire420 · Answer

I'd say there's too much toxicity and I'm not someone optional when she can't find someone else to replace my role as her lover. I'd refuse to tolerate red flags.

linka_pat307 · Answer

Just laugh and tell on his face that he has no place in ma life 👎🙅

AdithyaR · Answer

I'd say Sorry, your membership has expired and cannot be reinstated. Please try elsewhere.

ZenJen444 · Answer

She doesn't want to he with you. She's just bored and lonely. When her dream guy comes along she's going to drop you again.

Tracker1958 · Answer

NO FU KING WAY. Can't make it any clearer. She making you her back up plan.

Anonymous · Answer

She can work as a escort and make her own money unless she is fat or ugly. Why does need a relationship. She will be displeased about you again seeing the money you make it unless you are rich. Are you rich?

Pirate_Jay · Answer

I regret how things turned out but I don't think we are in a position to try and start again.

Anonymous · Answer

Do not. Don’t let anyone treat you like a revolving door. And that goes for anybody, man or woman.

mb120101 · Answer

Ignored her , felt awesome. Dont give it effort

Googlemyahoo · Answer

Unzip my pants say nothing.

dudeinohio · Answer

Id tell her to go away and move in.

Anonymous · Answer

You forgot your hat.

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