I had a 22-year marriage that ended in divorce, would you consider that a successful relationship or failure? (Page 3)

[maximumpower]

It's defined a failure if it ends in divorce - no matter the time.

[monorprise]

Did you have kids?

[DaveJord]

Yes 18 and 25

[misogynistic_pig]

It depends if they had children or not, obviously it is a failure as individuals but if they did have children it is a success for evolution.

[OrallyFixated]

It was successful, until it wasn’t.

[DaveJord]

Agreed! Thanks!

[Flower7]

A failure and a massive waste of time.

[DaveJord]

I can't agree with that, there were lot of good times, that I would not take back. But this why I posted to get people's honest opinions, so I appreciate your perspective. Thanks.

[LovingJo]

I would consider it an opportunity. And it shouldn't matter what ANYONE else thinks.
It's what YOU think, that matters!! 💯❤️😊

[Mangospacho]

I wouldn’t call the marriage itself a success after she burned it to the ground but I do think you got out of it successfully and you’re set up pretty well now to find someone better.

[oddwaffle]

If I bought a house I would have made bank in 22 years.

[Anonymous]

divorce = failure.

[DaveJord]

I do not think that is true... all or not perspective does leave much room for happiness. But I appreciate the response.

[Opinion Owner]

it was just my opinion, which you asked for in the poll.

[Delphier232]

Do you pay alimony?

[DaveJord]

Nope, I beat it!!! lol

[orangecherry]

Please explain what happened if you don't mind sharing...

[DaveJord]

22 years are to explain... they say most mental health issues do not fully mature within an individual until their mid 30s th late 40s.

Well that's what happened to my exwife. But she refused to get help, she blamed shifted, gaslight, and basically extremely toxic behaviors. Wore me down and out, lost the emotional engery to continue, my personal mental state and over all happiness became more important to me.

[orangecherry]

Sounds rough I am sorry this happened to you. At one time you were very much in love I bet

[David_Kek]

The very fact you consider it a success, is probably why she cheated on and left you.

[LiamJHayden]

My longest romantic relationship was ten months, so it sound like a huge success to me.

[MountAverage]

Impossible to say without knowing anything other than how long it lasted.

[Anemone978]

It all depends on how you feel about it...

[Anonymous]

Did you raise any kids successfully? Are they assets to the world or liabilities?

[DaveJord]

Not going to say they are liabilities... but they deserved better than what they got.

[Anonymous]

More successful then most.

[DaveJord]

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

I don't know. It depends on how much she robbed and stole from you. I'm sure you had some good times that money can't buy lasting 22 years.

[Kingofkings1992]

Obviously if it ended in divorce it’s a failure

[Redstang88]

More successful than any of mine