Do insecure & verbally and emotionally abusive guys ever change?

[Anonymous]

I've given husband many chances to lose his insecurities. But he emotionally abuses me. Insults about my family. Demands knowledge about my whereabouts, every step. Checks phone mail message sns everything. Talks to my ex. Delusional about seeing him where I work. He created scene Infront his whole family about my supposed infidelity. Does this get better ever?

[Pegases]

Sometimes, but when they do, they don't change for other people, they tend to only change for themselves. So, you are unlikely to be the reason they change. Couples counseling is an option you should consider, if you want to attempt to salvage the relationship, but if you're not willing to do that, playing the waiting game will inevitably lead to further disappointment.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes, it gets better when you commit to improvement. If he’s admitting he has issues, have you gotten him a counselor?

[Asker]

He's not admitting. Instead he's getting worse and having delusions

[BarryLiverstone]

Then it’s up to you as his partner and wife to get him mental help. Why wouldn’t you set up a doctor for him? If he was bleeding and you couldn’t stop the blood you would take him to the emergency room.

[Asker]

He gets aggressive on the mention of treatment. I've had his family members tell him to go to a doctor.

[BarryLiverstone]

Has he ever abused you?

[BarryLiverstone]

If he has then get help: 1.800.799.7233

[Jessica405]

No, they never change, at least not for the good. As frustration and insecurity build, so their abusiveness increases. My advice would be to bail out now. Make sure several people know you're going to split, and try to arrange a safe place to live. Watch your back all the time.

[Anonymous]

no. because that's usually how they were brought up. it's ingrained in them. he has a screw loose. best you move on so you don't end up on a true crime documentary.

[SunnyJazzy69]

in my opinion, no they don’t, unless maybe counseling will work. My husband hasn’t changed and we’ve been married 12 years this year. He’s gotten worse really.

[zagor]

Maybe if they're currently in Jr. High...