What's the worst way to break up with someone?

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BCRanger10 · Accepted Answer

Use your dying father to create drama and break up, and have friends try to do it for you.

This whole situation was incredibly middle school from start to finish. It's embarrassing.

I chased this girl for nearly a year back in the 2010-2011 timeframe. She was, to put it nicely, a massive trainwreck of a person, having been abused and manipulated in previous relationships. She was 19, but had the maturity of a 12-year-old. I tolerated way too much from her while pursuing her. When I finally did get my chance (which I waited for way too patiently because I was pathetic and desperate and had no confidence at all), things went well for a couple of weeks.

Then she disappeared with no warning or explanation. She was very active on Facebook, but ignored me and her best friend completely. As it turns out, her father was dying of cancer. I knew he'd had cancer, but I didn't know it was that bad. I didn't know because she didn't tell me.

He died not long after that. She claimed everything was fine and we'd go out again. Two weeks after that, she has her friend text me to tell me to leave her alone. I then asked her "directly" and that's when she started telling me she hated me; she claimed that by ignoring me, she was telling me she wanted to "break up".

What made me think she was using her father's death to create all this aforementioned middle-school style drama was because she said she needed me to leave her alone at the worst possible moment and I "couldn't". Now whether or not that was truly her intent, I don't know, but that is my assumption.

LiamJHayden · Accepted Answer

Hypothetically? Plant meth, fentanyl, crack, scales, bags, and firearms with filed off serial #'s in her car along with a wad of cash and then turn her.

msmissydc · Accepted Answer

Worst way I can imagine would be to get a text from your best friend that she is now together with your partner and they cheated on you for quite while. They messaged you now because they got an STD and you probably got it too.

SaoirseS · Accepted Answer

On the Jumbotron at a major sports event.

AviatorTom · Answer

This would make the start of an interesting movie plot.
Husband plans a romantic getaway to a foreign country for the couple 's 15th anniversary. After a passionate session of sex, they fall asleep in each other's arms. The next morning, she wakes up to find her husband gone, along with all of her clothes, and most importantly her passport. Only thing left is a note that reads "Happy Divorce!"

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Ghosting is the worst, cheating is the second worst, and making rude comments about her weight gain would be the third worst way to dump somebody.

Anonymous · Answer

I once was ghosted after almost a year of dating after a minor argument. That hurt. Hurt a lot. However it was a age gap relationship and in the back of mind I knew it wasn’t impossible for her to do something like that. I was semi mentally prepared for it. It still did damage though.

However the worst for me wasn’t that. The worst for me is when a girl confidently thinks she convert our relationship into a platonic friendship because she’s more interested in someone else. As a man that is extremely insulting. That’s literally telling a guy you don’t see him as a real man.

When you break up with someone (girls and guys) never ever ask “can we just be friends”.

Although I would never do this (and don’t recommend it) some women seriously need to be literally and figuratively backhanded for saying something so insulting. You don’t hear guys asking this often when they break up with girls. But women really need to change their behavior on this. Very disrespectful.

BoobSlayer · Answer

"Some loser who sits in his mom's basement gave me some good dating advice on GaG, so I decided we should end things."

mobiusforniner · Answer

Honestly, it is contingent on the quality of the relationship and the type of person. I'd imagine text message is the least personal. I've usually ended it in person or by phone. But with the last one, because she tried very hard to avoid what she knew was inevitable; I wrote her a handwritten letter. It was probably the most heart wrenching yet romantic thing I've ever done.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think over text, if it hasn't been a long distance relationship.

Gopackers02 · Answer

Either ghosting or public break up. I haven’t experienced either but ghosting would lead to overthinking and not knowing what went wrong. Public break up I don’t think I need to explain why this one is bad lol. It’s a public announcement of maybe a sad time. I mean i guess I experienced ghosting whenever I talk to a girl online and literally nothing went wrong I text back when I see the text and everything then randomly I don’t see her name anymore or she blocks or unfollows me like what.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Lmao honestly not giving/getting closure. Idc if its by text or what. Anything is better than ghosting. But its all good. We live. We learn. We move on either way

mattc007007 · Answer

Cheat on them, send them pics of it, and call them right after you cheated on them with the woman he's cheating with telling you it's over. I'd never do that but that's the worst-case scenario to me (within reason).

lilyanony1 · Answer

Fizzling/ghosting.
Stringing them along...
Dating someone else before you ended things with them.
Standing them up.
Through someone else.
Anything other than by offering the person the opportunity to gain real clarity.
The bottom line is, if you want out that should be clear for you and it's only right to bring the other person up to speed.

Unless there is the potential for violence.
I'd rather the honesty over none at all.

MarkHrdman · Answer

By fucking someone else without caring closure.

I've made out with someone before my girlfriend came back after I told her to leave because she stinks of alcohol. I didn't think she would come back.

Needless to say, she left again and I fucked the woman I was making out with.

Leapfrog00 · Answer

In person. No, lol, just joking. I had a girl break up with me over a text once. I called her a coward. I felt bad because I made her cry, but it was a cowardly thing to do. This is just my opinion, but if someone can't even tell me it's over in person, I don't think I can trust them anyway. People who hide behind alternative options are probably hiding other things as well.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

The worst way is by making them think they did something wrong when they didn't. That does happen. One person wants to end the relationship, so they tell the other person that they did something wrong, so they can "justify" breaking up. Then the other person feels bad that they "blew it", when in fact the one breaking up just wanted to end it.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Worst would be like machiavelli. Kill that person and all their family line

DancingQueen16 · Answer

I think the worst way to break up with someone is through a text message because I've heard breaking up with someone over text is worse than doing it in person

RobT312 · Answer

Cheating is the worst. Id never do that again

exitseven · Answer

Tell them that you will be busy doing schoolwork that weekend and then find out where they will be and purposely go there with your new boyfriend.

Yucy_Gluttony · Answer

With a video message of me fucking someone else, laughing in your face

Bricealan · Answer

Probably driving over them after you take 'em home?

Redstang88 · Answer

Being ghosted with no explanation sure fucks me up

Paradisepup36390 · Answer

Ghosting. It is a cowardly act for both sexes, unless the person is very hostile and threatens their life or happiness.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Breaking up by text is the worst way. Face to face is the right way to do it.

msc545 · Answer

I think the texting is the worst way to do it which is just slightly better than ghosting them which is just plain rude.

Anonymous · Answer

Ghosting them in between the actual breakup. hahaha

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Being falsely accused of abuse, and then she divorce rapes you for half of all your shit, the kids, forces you to pay her child support and her legal fees for the family court.

YourMamma · Answer

Doing it in any way that would cause any extra unnecessary pain. We know break ups are gonna hurt however it’s done but to do it badly can add so much more pain.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

Doing something to cause them to have PTSD then break up with them.

Sour-rose · Answer

Just... dipping. Just saying "I'm seeing other people, bye." No explanation just... gone. :c

mandyfire98 · Answer

Have them walk in on you in bed with someone else and just look up and say "I think we need to break up"

shi-shi · Answer

I think the very worst way would be to say "this is your fault" and then commit suicide in front of them

AdithyaR · Answer

That manipulative thing people do by subtly acting toxic and annoying to the point where you break up with them so that they can act like the victim and come out as the innocent party

Minahh · Answer

By lying about the cause of the break up to their face

molonski2 · Answer

Send em an SMS , you owe them a meeting or very least a phone call.

FreyaRed · Answer

You make them addicted to you and send them to eternal withdrawal.

Boomchakalaca · Answer

Through text and if they dont got a reason for breaking up, it just hurts more.

MysticAngel5000 · Answer

Texting/ghosting. Do it in person and be honest about it.

annabananna · Answer

I never really cared about you and was just with you for so am so reason.

RavVid · Answer

Get someone else to deliver the news and read out the list of fails for you.

Anonymous · Answer

I've only been in one relationship that ended. I broke up with her by fucking her in the ass just before telling her I found out she had been cheating and I was dumping her.

The next girl I dated I ended up marrying.

shades777 · Answer

Too many ways to count, it sucks the most when everything is going right and you decide to break up with her over something uncontrollable but is a dealbreaker. Because there is no solution.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

By text. Look, I know we live together but you got 2 hours to get all of your shit and get the fuck out of my house! While I'm sitting next to her..

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Having someone breakup over the telephone.

zagor · Answer

I think the Amber Heard shitting-on-the-bed thing didn't sound very pleasant.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Your sister's tits are bigger than yours, so Ima go with her.

dragoblack · Answer

Not telling them at all and just straight up blocking them on every contact... I've had it happen to me

Anonymous · Answer

Whoa look who's back on the site! What a pity; I thought you had left 🙄

Avicenna · Answer

Just ghosting

NathanDavis · Answer

one  sided-ly

ILoveAnime · Answer

By text. Do it in person.

Simslover92 · Answer

Through text message.

serious · Answer

Break up by text.

Shark_61695 · Answer

A billboard on their way to work.

Djaay · Answer

To let them break up with you so that they reap what they sew.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Ghosting, making a scene in public, ruining your reputation

JamesDylan1990 · Answer

Over text my ex did that and I never saw her again.

Keishio · Answer

Just leaving without saying anything

jjj101010 · Answer

Probably murder, that seems pretty hard to beat as a bad break up

Likes2drive · Answer

Probably through text

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Murder, I'd say.

legalboxers · Answer

Text.. Family Member..

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