Why does my ex-boyfriend wish that I would just disappear after a breakup?

[Honeybee5677889]

Hi everyone,

Late last year my ex and I had a bad break up, even though I am still hurting from it I tried to give him some comfort by reaching out to say it wasn't anyone's fault and hoping that he would be okay, because I saw him (he didn't see me) on a night out with friends and he had the same pained expression on his face from before, I too haven't gotten over it and I understand it's a process

But no matter how bad the situation was, I wouldn't wish for another person to disappear, and his words were "I'm the only one holding on too what he and I were" and he "wishes that I would just disappear", it's a very cruel thing to say, I can understand when you hurt you say stuff like that, but maybe he's not hurt, maybe he does wish for me to disappear.

I would ask him but I obviously can't. I could never wish that on anyone.

Thank you everyone for your opinions.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to hear about your difficult breakup and your ex-boyfriend's hurtful words. It's understandable that you would be hurt and confused by his statement, and it's important to take care of yourself during this time.

It's possible that your ex-boyfriend is still processing his emotions and dealing with the pain of the breakup, which could be causing him to say hurtful things. However, it's important to remember that his words are not a reflection of your worth or value as a person.

It's also possible that he may be struggling with his own feelings of guilt or regret, and wishing that you would disappear may be a way for him to avoid those emotions. However, regardless of his reasons, it's not okay for him to say something so hurtful and disrespectful.

It's important to focus on your own healing and well-being during this time, and to surround yourself with supportive friends and family. If you find that his words are impacting your mental health, it may be helpful to seek out therapy or counseling to process your emotions and develop coping strategies.

Remember, you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, and it's okay to distance yourself from someone who is not able to provide that for you.

[MikeTheBartender]

I think it's pretty natural, I wouldn't say it means he wants you to be hurt, but as men we don't want to see the woman we dated with her new guy. No matter what that's always hard. And so are breakups. But I also think you shouldn't Focus energy on this, you guys didn't work out for a reason, it's okay to care about him, but you shouldn't let it ruin your day.

[WhitneySnow]

He’s really mad at you and just wants to forget you ever existed

[Anonymous]

You should kill yourself and make him eat his words

[Honeybee5677889]

I shudder to think what a comment like that would do to a suicidal person

[Opinion Owner]

Couldn't care less

[Anonymous]

Because he really hates you?