My narcissist boyfriend broke up with me. I don't know how to feel?

[girlz]

He didn't care about me at all. Do you think I should be happy to break up with someone with such a personality? But also, I miss him...

[Leapfrog00]

It's normal to miss someone you're no longer with but remember, narcissists only care about their own needs. Your needs are not important to them. There may have been nice things he did for you, but in the end, it's not worth all the stress when they throw it back up in your face.

I just finished a book on narcissists and their abusive behaviors. I was in a situation with a narcissist, and she tried to murder me. They are dangerous people. I'm surprised though that he broke up with you because usually, these people are hard to get rid of. They stalk their breakups, they lie, and they even send their victims to jail.

You're better off out of that situation. I recommend if you have any friends, spend some time with them. Don't jump back into any relationships right now. It's OK to miss him, but taking him back the first chance you get, be careful. These people are good at making you believe you can't live without them.

I'm here if you want to talk. I hope this helped.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Strange... a narcissist is usually concerned with keeping their target under their thumb. Them withdrawing their love is usually a form of punishment, but they keep their target within reach and will dip back into that person's life when they feel like it.

Like if he's a true narcissist, he'll be right back in your space if he see's you happier and better off without him. He might leave you alone just as long as he feels you're a waste of his time.

For me... since I hate narcissistic people, I would feel relieved. Probably take any sort of attempt to get back into my space with "you're too good for me, so leave me alone" sort of mode. I wouldn't try to entice them to want me back in their life. I would encourage them to think they're leaving someone that is not worthy of their time behind. In reality though... I'd just be glad that I'm not dealing with their bullshit.

[molonski2]

I think the term narcissist is greatly overused , people use this term all the time when its not actually the case. A true narcissist leaving? Crack the champagne and never look back , utter relief.

[D_Bone_Steak]

@molonski2 Right? A true narcissist leaving on their own without great force or getting tricked into doing so is unheard of. They're actually too much of control freaks to just do that on their own volition. I mean they're more likely to start effing someone else but still trying to keep the prior person under their control and under relationship rules. Them just wanting to leave on their own though...

Yeah, break out the champagne if that actually happens. I wouldn't of predicted that happening.

[Genie23]

If I were you, I'd feel so relieved and be glad that the guy I got into a relationship with turned out to be a narcissist which is a nightmare. So, you should be glad that it's over and move forward in life. You think you miss him because that's what happens when you're used to spending time with someone. It gets easier as the time passes by. You need to understand that you deserve someone better, you'll meet him someday.

[isayboo]

I think it takes time to get over someone bc you did have a connection with them. Be thankful it ended bc he sounds like a douche. Do not worry someone else will come along in your life and you will be happier. I think for now just work on yourself and be happy!

[OlderAndWiser]

Not happy, but relieved!

[lightbulb27]

you should feel better and relieved, unless "you" has been lost. your project is to get your feelings back so you can make sense of it all, learn and grow from it and be your best you.

I don't buy what you just said because why would a narcissist break up with someone they have control over and are milking? That doesn't sound like that kinda person... so something is amis and there's a lot of details missing.

but I wasn't in it...

[abc3643]

RELIEVED

Think of Trump: Narcissistic asshole extraordinaire.

Be thankful he saved you time so you didn't waste it by sticking with him until you eventually would have left him - something you were going to do. It wasn't a question of "if" but of "when" you were going to leave him.

[GoodEnoughThen]

"He didn't care about me at all"

You. summed it up perfectly.

Sorry to hear. Though you miss him, that may really be about loneliness or other self esteem issues. Down the road, you will probly reflect back and think the day he left you was the best day of your life. You'll probly consider sending him a thank you note.

[Lord_Ateag]

As someone who's probably a narcisist, I don't feel I'm at a loss after my 5-year ex and I split except that I won't have my boys every day. I love my kids more than anything, but I'm not sure I know what being romantically in love feels like. Even with my ex wife before her, I felt zero jealousy and was totally open to the idea of an open relationship. I'm not diagnosed, but some symptoms have been noticed.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

if you "dont know" then you must be a narcissist yourself!

lol, KIDDING. being raised by a narcissist myself I know how you feel. but trust me this is just the beginning. the best is yet to come once you fully realize the huge burden that you just got right off you

[jujus]

I have gotten dumped before by my ex girlfriend. It was one of the most worst things that could happen to me. Took some time for me to get over her I wanted to get back with her. I tried to think of ways I could to make it go back how it used to be. But eventually I got over her and how I felt about her changed. She even texted me later on saying how she was sorry wanting to get back together with me that she made a mistake but it was too late I was already done with her.

[Alex8736]

go no contact as well as delete and block him because to them its all a game wanting you to kiss up to them boosting their ego knowing they have you on a string but when you ignore them their true colors come out by gaslighting and defaming you to whoever cares to listen

[sheikalana]

Call it a blessing! It may not look like one now but escaping a narcissistic partner has to be a blessing. You will miss him and feel like sh*t for a while but that's part of the healing process you'll start feeling so much better very soon.

[sage2021]

If you go on Quora. com they have a lot of stuff about narcissist's and it should help you.
Lot's of luck!

[Fireguy17]

any breakup sucks, but in time you will be glad to be rid of him.
It probably won't take much time at all before you are over him.

[Anonymous]

Just wish him the best and hope that he and himself are very happy together.

[OfMiceandMen]

I would be happy if I were you... You're freeeeee!!

[FreyaRed]

Figure out what you exactly miss and replace it with a substitute

[boggboss]

Well u can't choose how to feel u will just feel it just gotta move on

[Anonymous]

If he's a narcissist then you should be very happy that the relationship has ended. Narcissists are toxic as hell.

[Keishio]

Every girl I know seems to have narcissistic ex boyfriends. Starting to think that word just gets used when they stop getting along

[Anonymous]

Be happy that a toxic person removed himself out of your life instead of ruining it more. You deserve a better guy who treats you the best

[Opinion Owner]

Missing him is a toxic form of attachment which you eventually lose of. Attachment is not always good as it makes you attach for the narcissist or toxic person even if they're not good for you. Attach yourself to a better guy who treats you the best

[Pudsmucker]

You should be lucky that you broke up with him and have a party. He was a royal ass.

[AlexisDiani]

You should feel lucky

[Finchie40]

Feel Free!!! He did you a favor LOL

[slatyb]

You feel what you feel.

[TacosRAwesome]

Eventually you'll feel peace.

[Stevefiveo]

He did you a favor. Go find someone better.

[shades777]

at least you feel something

[noohair]

You are lucky. Feel it.

[ArrowheadSW]

Be glad. LOL

[Engin12]

that means you will find someone better

[Anonymous]

Is that you again Mary?
Banging on again?