What's the gentlest way to break up with a girl?

[Anonymous]

My rant, if you wanna hear why:

She's always talking about other guys and how great they are, idolizing male celebrities, and bringing up all her exes.
She'll also sometimes send me a text that doesn't relate to what we're talking about, then say "Didn't mean to send that!".
She told me goodnight at 11 last night, and come to find out she was up till 2:30. That and the fact that she sent me the wrong text shortly before saying goodnight, tells me she was up so late talking to someone else.

I don't have any proof of wrong doing, but I don't like the way she talks about other guys and I'm highly suspicious she's talking to them too. So I'm done, but I also want to let her down easy.

Updates

11 mo

This should be in "Break up and Divorce", but it didn't give me the option lol

[OfMiceandMen]

It's kind of a sly way to do things, but, you could always slow-ghost her.

Just, contact her less and less over time.

It's less confrontational, and if she's seeing someone else, she won't mind and likely jump ship with the other guy. She may just let it slide or she may break it off with you, either way you likely got your answer.

Alternatively, if she keeps hounding you to contact her and won't give up, then most likely she is into you, not seeing anyone, and wants the relationship to continue.

That being said, why not just talk to her about it and see what she says?

[Asker]

I like that idea actually, that makes sense.
And I would talk to her, but I don't see that doing any good. In my experience, those conversations don't go well. Or if they do, they leave a bad taste in your mouths

[OfMiceandMen]

True, unlikely to recover after having a conversation over whether she's seeing someone else and possibly breaking it off.

[slatyb]

Just day "This isn't working for me. I wish you all the best."

[Asker]

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[BlackJeep]

Tell her the truth.

[Asker]

Okay