Am I potential cheater?

[Anonymous]

So always dreamed of being in a spotlight and I love when I feel attention from men. I love when i am the most outstanding woman in the room. I love having fun and adventures.

1 year ago I went to Japan for working. I met an amazing guy and we fell for each other. He is quite conservative, I am more of a southern girl type. I mean I have a very loud and expressive temperament.

When I am with my boyfriend, I change, I turn into a more gentle person. Sometimes I can cry because of how much I love him but everytime I hear Italian or Spanish music, It calls me for adventure and travel, just like before, I imagine the life I am missing and the life I always dreamed about. The crazy life of an unsettled young woman, who has all the adventures ahead. I am in no way conservative. I still want to work in Japan for 1 more year, but the reason I want this money is that I want to travel, still be the spotlight of every party I go, make the men of all the world admire my charms. In Japan, all types of men from all countries, all of them liked me. Everywhere I go everyone likes me but when I’m with my boyfriend, even though I feel happy, secure and loved, my heart calls me from somewhere else. And no... I don’t want to break up with him, I prefer my man to the all the men of the world but I just love attention I get from them. I know you might think I am a bad person, but I’ve been with my boyfriend for 11 months and never cheated him. I am always supportive and caring, he says he feels lucky to have me. I think all the men would feel lucky to have me. I don’t want to cheat, I just still want to feel I am wanted and admired.

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I ask this advice because I realize there’s something wrong, I understand people’s negative comments but It would be much more helpful if you’ve got any advices about how to change myself.

[potatoiswhoiam]

You don't sound like a potential cheater to me, you sound like a person who has enough self control to distinguish right from wrong and just the fact that you feel something about you is wrong, proves it.
Wanting and liking attention is not bad and it's actually a leadership quality. So you know you're independent and adventurous person while your boyfriend might not be. This doesn't make you a cheater.. it just makes you.. well an adventurer.
I think since you like travelling, you should travel and have fun in life, and to make things better in your relationship, maybe when you get attention from other men, brag about your boyfriend and your relationship with him and how great he makes you feel. This way you're still getting attention but you're staying loyal to your boyfriend, and at the same time you avoid flirting and hurting him.

[Anonymous]

Wow your ego!
And yes. Your personality type is the type to cheat. Cheating isn’t always physical and deliberately trying to allure the attention of other men is unfaithful

[SAVAGE222]

What's cheating in that?
She is the faithful to her boyfriend.

[SAVAGE222]

You're independent woman.. being in relationship is not your cup of tea. Baby get the hell out from relationship and fly over the world. Lol. We both are same. Hehe

[Asker]

Yeah sometimes I think that’s the life I am born for. But also, I love my boyfriend a lot. We went through very important times together and he became my family throughout the time. But this love didn’t change my personality and dreams. I am still the person I was before just now I have one more person to care for.

[SAVAGE222]

Just do whatever good for you.
Stop being pussy. Lol. Go n fly you born for fly

[baconninjadc]

You're only a potential cheater if you are unable to make a commitment and keep it. Otherwise you're just being yourself and there's nothing wrong with that

[Asker]

I’ve been committed for 11 months and never cheated. I like attention but that’s it.

[baconninjadc]

Cool. I wouldn't judge you if you are a cheater anyway but I totally understand where you're coming from

[Celtero]

You won't be as pedestalized as you'd expect, and one day you'll be fat and old and nobody will care for you and you'll only have your superficial limelight memories to keep you company.

[Asker]

I’ve already been treated the way I want, I mean I’ve been in 5 other countries and I am always in the center of attention. People from all the continents everyone likes me. :P However I see the problem in the way I think, this is why I asked this question, I want to change the way I think and appreciate what I have.

[Celtero]

How can you be so sure though? If you're the loudest most boisterous person in the room people are going to look at you. And why are they looking at you? Is it because just you're a pretty young woman? Would it be the same if you were an old man?

To me, it sounds like you're just stoking your ego with attention.

[Asker]

I am not the loudest :) I am expressive. But even when I am the most quiet one, I never lack attention.

[bigmatt98]

You are conceited holy shit

[bigmatt98]

Okay take your self down about 300 pegs can come back to earth