Is it normal to feel this way after a month?

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So myself and my ex girlfriend have been broken up for a month and I honestly don’t have the energy to get back out there. I also feel a less sense of patience and trust

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

For 5 months after break up, I was not myself. I lost weight. I had random crying outbursts at work twice or three times a week, I couldn’t help but cry, I worked with my eyes teary, I had nightmares and woke up crying every night. My heart hurt, my eyes hurt from crying, I thought If I’d cry a bit more I’d die from a heart attack.
The nights - a few minutes before falling asleep was the most peaceful for me, as I was so tired of crying, and had no energy left at all, I would go to sleep hoping the next day would be better. The next day was same. That was the pure agony. I thought having your heart broken is definitely one of the most painful things you’ll experience.

I worked 4 jobs to not have a spare minute to think about him. And still, he was on my mind. I was wearing glasses to cover my sad eyes.

After 5 months, I started partying to forget him, I also started dating - to forget, just to be able to keep living and prove myself that there was life after him. I had the best kiss of my life after the break with him.

Soon after, I smiled again. I had the best time. I did so many memorable things, slowly I smiled more than I cried. I felt happy and pretty again.

Then I realized dating and partying just to forget him was unhealthy and not suitable for my personality and I stopped. I haven’t cried about him for the past two months already.

I can picture my life without him and me being happy, I can imagine my 2nd love will be much stronger than my first one, because whoever it’s going to be, he will fall for my broken version and teach me how to trust again and I believe that’s the bigger of a love, than the love of a naive youngster who has never had her heart broken and looks at everything with pink glasses.

My 2nd heartbreak, if it ever happens, will also be less crippling, because I already got my heart broken in the past and I know better how to deal with it this time. In a more healthy way than the first time.

That was the lowest I have ever been and that will never happen again.

I hope my story can be an inspiration for you, It’s been 10 months. I am happy it ended, I am sure there’s something better in my future and I learned a good lesson through both, my relationship and a heartbreak.

You’ll get better again, give yourself time and accept the emotions you are feeling.

Honest-Matt · Answer

If you're in your 30s like me, then it's normal. If we're single in our 30s we go into a mini-midlife crisis. You are still coping with the relationship ending so give yourself some slack and let yourself mentally recover.

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