I’ve only had action once in 2 years and I feel really sad?

[Anonymous]

Today my sister told me she is concerned for me that I haven’t gotten any action really in 2 years and like I need some genuine advice. I really want a boyfriend but I’m so picky. I’m a cute girl like I’m not not gonna lie and boys do hit on me but I don’t like any of them. What’s wrong with me :( like why can’t I find anyone

[DishLady]

So go out and get some action -- 'tis the season...

[egan3141]

1) The problem for most women is the way they look for men. If you expect men to do all the work, you probably won't find a good guy. Relationships these days are too sex focused, so there are fewer and fewer good guys.
2) If you truly want to put in some basic work, just start going on dates with guys. Find some guy (in person, at work, at the gym, on a dating site, ANYWHERE, even the guy selling you something at a store) and ask him to go on a date. Do this as often as you have time to do. If you have time do a 1 hour date in the evening every day, go on a single date every day of the week. The ones that didn't interest you, just say "sorry, you aren't what I'm looking for" and move on. The ones that did, go for a second date. Also, since this is a rapid fire thing, kind of like speed dating, do activities like walking around a park or something else where you have lots of time for talking and no money involved.
3) As the other guy said, your standards could be too high. Are you picky about how much money they make, how good they look, how tall they are? Those are the kind of standards that destroy your options and aren't good standards to have.
4) If you aren't in school anymore, it's just tough. I'm 30 now and I still can't find anyone, and I've been looking pretty hard the past few years.

[Orion84]

Well, only two possibilities come to mind, really.

Either your standards are too high, or the guys that approach you are just trash. If the former is the issue, then nobody can really do anything about that, but you. I'm not criticizing you, but you did say you were picky, so it is at least a possibility. There is nothing wrong with having preferences, though.

If it's the latter, then your best bet would be to try hanging out where there are a better quality of men. I don't know where you meet guys, now, but if the majority of the men you do meet are below your standards, it might be in your best interest to expand your "hunting grounds" a little bit. Maybe you'll have better luck.

[Asker]

I just don’t know how to choose properly and also I leave in Canada so it gets super cold here and makes it harder to find someone cuz no one goes outside lol

[Orion84]

Well, choosing is kind of a crapshoot, really, because you can never know for certain whether a person will make a good partner. The best you can do is get to know someone, and go with your instincts.

Playing it cautious, and being picky, is not inherently a bad thing, unless you're so cautious that you never allow yourself to take a chance. If you never give anyone a shot, you're guaranteed to never find someone.

Maybe try to articulate what kind of a guy you want. Make a list for yourself. List the qualities and attributes you're looking for, and kind of get a feel for what kind of person you'd date. Then figure out where that kind of guy hangs out, and try to look for someone there.

[Alex-Snow]

When you least expect it the right guy will enter your life. It is ok to just not want to grab the first guy who hits on you. How old are you? Stay interested in things where you might meet a guy with similar interests. Message me if you want to chat more about it.

[Staximus]

Go hang out where the type of guys you're looking for hang out.