Going through a life change and need help?

[kclark30]

I got divorced in Feb 22 from my ex who I was with for 10 years, he treated me badly and I had to leave. I made the mistake of getting into a 2 month relationship with someone in Apr 22. He was a player, never around, cheated on me, and he was the one who broke things off. The excuse I got was so he could fix his life. The next relationship I got into was in Sep 22 with a guy and it was slow and casual. He got arrested in Jan 23 because he’s the guy that has bad luck when he drinks. I’m trying to heal myself and have discovered spirituality. I have never felt so lost in my life and I don’t know what to do. My brain is so screwed up that sometimes I convince myself that I see my ex’s car when I drive around and think that he is in my backyard. I’m not crazy, but why in the world do I think this? I feel like everyone is moving on except me, I feel stuck and I want to fix this so I can be a normal person again.

[MementoMori777]

well first missy you must relax and breath which by the way you seem to be jumping into relationships like you aren't still healing from that long marriage, you gotta give yourself time to breathe and healing is the most important thing right now, you should focus on healing and get back in a good state of mind because all this rush dating and failing will just worsen your state of mind, you have to focus on healing, because you seem to be moving too fast and you gotta slow down, breath, have some alone time, focus on yourself for a while and when you know you are ready ti date again, jump back in the game, there's no rush, if you have to focus on your spirituality then do that, no rush, no need to stress and what you need now it to slow down a bit, i know you are heartbroken and trust me that by rushing yourself to find someone else isn't going to help you, you gotta heal from that relationship first, you'll be alright

[richardcory]

My suggestion is to not look for a long term relationship now. You've been in a bad relationship and that has probably made your life pretty unhappy. Concentrate on doing things you enjoy. Spend time with friends, whatever makes you happy.

At some point you will run into someone who makes you happy and want to spend more time with them.

I suspect you are in them mindset of feeling you "need" to find someone. Instead just enjoy life as it goes, and wait until you run into someone you want to be with

[RoseySarah]

Answer your going to hate me for...

Stay single! Or online relationship!

What ever it takes to not get involved and to let yourself heal before moving onto the next and you did wonderful taking it slow.

If you need I have a few toys that will help keep you single

[Billlewis]

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[dolemite58]

stop getting involved with deadbeats might be a good start

[DryGermanGuy]

When it rains, it storms. I know the feeling.

[Celticwolf78]

If you need to talk or vent I'll listen just pm me