So, my ex “let me down easy” through his friend that’s a female. Is that the right way?

[Toriixlovely]

[Anonymous]

At the absolute bare minimum bottom of the barrel break up methods, your now ex should have shot you a text or email, and the absolute maximum is breaking up with you in person. Sending some random to come do it form him, is BS, and I would have told her, "OUR" break-up should be none of your business no matter how nice you're trying to let me down for him. Move right on by. Best you find yourself someone decent and real who cares more about you even in a break-up, to say it to your face.

[Adaeva]

If he is done with you, he's done and that is all you need to know. He should not be rude but there is no reason to waste his time and yours attempting to give you satisfaction because you cannot ever be satisfied over a breakup you didn't initiate and/or don't want..

[ChicoFromThe305]

That kinda sucks

[Toriixlovely]

It really sucks actually 😂 I had to sit there looking @ these messages that I’m getting from his home girl. Like what’s goin on lol that’s how he broke up with me.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I know I was just trying to make you feel better by using the word kinda 😆

I thought it would soften the blow a bit, I'm working on how to filter my honesty, either ways tho, that dude just set up a whole play to break up with you, this makes dump texts look acceptable ha

[Toriixlovely]

Nooo, you’re good. It’s better to be forward & honest about things. I don’t take anything the wrong way lmao.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I got the extreme case of the honesty, I once told a woman I was gonna block her but decided to be forward with her cause it's only right and its a long story but long story short she ended up blocking me, understandably, I blab too much, it works against me, so I'm trying to work on that ☻

[Toriixlovely]

AT LEAST YOU WERE REAAL !! Ahaha it’s better to be honest about things than to let someone start wondering what’d happened. I got blocked too though by my ex 😂 after the fact he told me he wanted me than said “I don’t want you” a whole circus.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I think that amount of real was kinda unnecessary, if I changed my mind about blocking her why did I make it clear to her that I was thinking of blocking her, your ex was more toxic than Chernobyl tho, this girl was chill, I still beat myself over it but I can't help what I am I guess 💀

[Toriixlovely]

Well, things happen. I’m sorry you still think of it & felt bad. Now you know how to handle another situation that comes along & plus you’re trying to be better!! HEYY I AGREE WITH YOU 😂 **high five**

[ChicoFromThe305]

The whole situation is still a bit blurry to me but thanks, I'll probably fuck shit up again but at least I know to myself that it wasn't my intention 🙂🙃🙂🙃🙂

So can you remind me how exactly a chill as girl like yourself was doing with this chloramine gas you call a man?

[Toriixlovely]

Yeah, of course. It’s okay if you fuck up!! Who doesn’t & in all honesty. I do not know I wish I did but I truly don’t. You know I’ve learned from this and I am not ashamed to be real about it either. He’s tried leaving me 3 times before but he stayed. The reason is cause to him I was very annoying, to emotional, talk to much, and way much more. This last time he said “I don’t want you” was the time I finally accepted it (through his female friend) & didn’t want him no more. Real shit I tried changing my self for someone who always thought about me as a problem. Everything I did was an issue. I got told once “you’ll be perfect if you didn’t talk so much” 😂 not going to lie I needed constant reassurance cause he cheated but to him it mentally drained him. Like I understand but how? Ahaha If I was the one who was putting up with your childish behavior. I have an attachment issue (which is anxious preoccupied attachment) so it’s hard to detach from someone who I know isn’t for me and didn’t deserve me. Also, Im always worried about someone leaving me. Looking at it now I feel disappointed in my self but I know now if someone wants me they’re going to love everything I come with. Ps: I am just now working on my self & healing from my past trauma. It just hurt cause of how much he talked about me making me look like the bad person. He told me I needed to work on my self. 😂😂

[ChicoFromThe305]

I gotta say, your patience is at an all time high, you just felt with it and accepted all the bull he told you, some people just don't deserve others, Cupid must have been shit faced on crack when he shot this arrow, y'all aren't compatible at all you are a decent lovable woman and he's just... what is a nice word for a piece of shit? Either ways that dude could not have been anymore worthless, he clearly doesn't know what he's talking about, he said you talk a lot like it's a bad thing, you can keep a convo going, are you by any chance Latina, your 'i don't give a fuckattude' rubs me off as Latina 🤣

[Toriixlovely]

Thank you. I sure do try to be patient & of course I stay picking the wrong ones lmao. There is NOOO LIE in what you’ve just said 😂 that word is exact & everything else that came along with that. Literally, I love having on going genuine conversations. I didn’t get that; I had to shut up most of the time. But he told his friends I was boring cause we didn’t have anything to talk about (much confused) but I’m glad everything worked out how it did. Also, yes I am Latina. Half actually I’m mixed (black & Latina) glad someone could tell.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Wow, I actually guessed both, I was thinking either black or Latina, it comes from both I see ha, that man's appearance sounds like a damn prison, geez, what did he think he was Jabba the Hutt, genuine conversations are needed Tori, I don't know how you be been surviving without any, how did you last so long with him, any woman wouldve left him to eat dirt 🤔

[Toriixlovely]

That’s where my attachment problem comes in. If I healed long ago & created a secure attachment for my self. I know I would’ve left him from the jump. But sadly that shit wasn’t the case 😂😂lesson learned though & Now, I’m actually on my healing journey cause hell to the no. I wish another would try to come and with play me. **drop kick** real fast lmao.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I think I can sense a strong level of loyalty coming from you, but this healing process sounds good, sounds like you've had your worst part already, also that drop kicking sounds pretty cool, I'd pay to watch that, if you drop kick them between the legs you'll have them jumping like the Jordans logo no lie, I surely do wish you the best on your healing, gotta get back to 100% , you need your happy ending 😆

[balyai]

Move on

[Toriixlovely]

Kind of hard. But I know I must do so.

[balyai]

I know it's hard. But hey, you know that you deserve better.

[Toriixlovely]

Thank you. I just be questioning things. That’s because (tmi) I didn’t cheat & he did. But hey it is what it is.

[balyai]

I agree with you. And it's normal how you feel.

[balyai]

Thanks for MHO

[Toriixlovely]

No, thank you!!

[balyai]

Can you follow me? I wanna message you. I have a question

[coachTanthony]

He's a smuck for doing that but at least you know. All you can do is move on.

[Paris13]

Cowardly Way Out. Move On. xxoo

[Anonymous]

I got drunk and had sex with this guy friend who was totally into me. I'd heard stories before but I had no idea he was so tiny and i laughed at it, anyway I let him do his thing and 30 seconds later it was over. I let him do me a few more times after but just was into it. Crazy that I lost my virginity that way, I might even have still been a virgin because sex with the next guy hurt the first time and I knew I had a penis inside me, I wasn't asking if it was in yet.

[Meropatrick]

I hate this shyt. Why people can't just confront. He should tell u he wants to break up. This makes me upset really 😔some people just make simple things bitter for everyone

[Toriixlovely]

That’s what I think my self. I don’t understand why people waste others time. Just be forward so I can heal & move on.

[Constatine]

Easy?

It make it only harder because the ex was to weak to face you. You can only ask the female "Why? " or other questions she not has the answer for

i think it is lame 😳😤

[thatshydork]

That’s almost as bad, if not, worse, then a break up text.

[DannyUk2017]

Is not the right way, is the Coward way, maybe he cannot face Confrontation, so he took the "easy way out" 🤷‍♂️

[AydenHazor]

Not at all. He would have had the guys to tell you himself. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

[Toriixlovely]

Hey, it was wrong but I’m glad it happened.

[AydenHazor]

You're definitely better off without him!

[CallmeTheKnight]

Don’t obsess over what an ex did and will do. He did you a favor if he’s indirect and other people gotta talk to you instead of him. You’re better off without him in your life

[DreamLife7]

Doesn't matter he doesn't want to be with you so leave him alone

[Toriixlovely]

Ofc, it doesn’t matter. But I wanted to see what people thoughts were about the situation & yes best believe I did leave him alone. Not going to make someone want me 😂😂

[DreamLife7]

Move on , our thoughts don't matter he's made his decision

[HippoDino]

No it's not the right way, but it got the message across so.

[DevikaButts95]

I mean there's not really a "right way" but also, no, it was not the right way.

[BCRanger10]

No. Not even close. That's a pretty low way of doing it.

[BlueViolets]

I don't think it is the right way. As a girl I would prefer if it were face and in private. No public places. Whatever might be the reason it would help if it were communicated clearly.

[HelpfulWoman]

do you think it was the right way?

[Toriixlovely]

No, I don’t. I felt I deserved it from him more than from someone who doesn’t kno anything of me & what happened in the relationship.

[HelpfulWoman]

then it wasn't the right way.

[TheSpaceGnome]

When people breakup its because they don't get along, expecting courtesies from an ex is unrealistic.

[Toriixlovely]

I didn’t expect anything from him. I rather him come tell me than to make someone else come into this & do it.

[TheSpaceGnome]

You just contradicted yourself.

"I rather him come tell me than to make someone else come into this & do it."

That is an expectation. He's an ex, he doesn't give a shit about you, he's not going to do anything you want him to do unless he thinks it benefits him. So he does not care what you would rather have happen.

[TheSpaceGnome]

All the people on here calling him a coward like it will somehow impact him in anyway... it has no effect on the situation.

The reality is that he can choose to ignore you entirely, and you can either move on to eventually finding a guy who actually does love you, or you can harp on your ex pointlessly.

You should not even care what he does at this point, just cut off communication with him and be done with it.

[Toriixlovely]

It truly doesn’t have nothing to do with contradicting my self. It is what it is. I just didn’t know if that was the right thing to do or not. You have your own opinion and everyone else does too & i don’t agree but i completely understand what you’re saying. No, he doesn’t have to do anything he doesn’t want to do ofc. But at the end of the day don’t perceive your self to be someone who you’re not & make someone else do the work for you.

[TheSpaceGnome]

You said you don't expect anything from him, then right after said you expect him to handle a break up a specific way. Thats a contradiction.

[Toriixlovely]

I didn’t expect him to. I wanted him to. Since ofc I hold people accountable for their actions. If you say what you say you are then come with it Ahahah.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Wants and expectations are the same thing in my opinion. So at best you are splitting hairs, but I don't care enough to debate this any further.

[Toriixlovely]

Oh love no one’s trying to argue so my apologies if I’m coming off rude in anyways. Me as well I hope you have a great day 😊! Thank you for your opinion today. I took it into consideration.

[Anonymous]

Take all that pain and turn it into drive.

[Blueeyes81]

No. It's pretty cowardly.

[Staximus]

That's a coward's way out.

[Danny_dan92]

Th does that mean?

[Toriixlovely]

Break up with me but in a gently way I guess.

[Danny_dan92]

By fucking your friend? I’m confused

[Toriixlovely]

Technically, that’s how he broke up w me. He made his friend (that’s a girl) come & tell me like he didn’t want me no more. He was trying to let me down easy.

[Danny_dan92]

That’s kind of chicken shit tbh.

Why can’t he be a fucken man and tell you himself?

[Toriixlovely]

That’s what I said. I wanted answers so bad. I guess he thought I wouldn’t accept it but little did he know that’s exactly what I did.

[Danny_dan92]

Cut your loses and move on. You dated a pussy

[Toriixlovely]

Pure facts. I should’ve seen the signs.