so i was dating on old friend of mine. we broke up do to me being a virgin and she couldnt get past it but at the same time she refused to take it. for the last two months things have been really off and on between us since she found out. well why we were not together i slept with a friend of mine. she found out about it and was absolutely pissed. after about two weeks she texts me and says she can't get past it sorry. we stopped talking and i moved on. met another girl who im talking with now. after two weeks of no contact (including her completely ignoring a text from about 4 days afterwards) she called me out of the blue. due to us being long term friends i was open to the idea of maintaining a friendship so i responded. it ended with me after leaving an event asking her what she was up to and her response was calling me a boy and she knows because she just met a real man. i responded by saying sorry you feel that way gl to the two of you im prob just going to hang out with this girl i met the other day anyway. and she had a full blown meltdown and ended up bring up the me sleeping with my friend and etc and how it was so mean i hurt her etc... i was thinking about texting her today asking what about the situation made her so upset. was it the action, or because it was with a friend because she's hinted at both and why it bothers her so much. i dont really understand and people I've talked to really dont either. i dont understand because she broke up with me and threw me away over it and she over and over again refused to take it from me. its like i dont want to be with you, and i dont want to sleep with you but since i can't or won't i dont want you to or you can't be/ sleep with anyone else. its even worse because i know from regulars at the bar we use to goto together that a few days after we broke up she was there with another guy getting touchy feely with him. like its ok for you to do it but not me? i dont want her back just curious
Girls, fair to ask her why she's so upset with the situation, I dont get it and no one else seems to either?
What Girls Said
He who questions the motivations of a fool is l, in himself, foolish.
She's obviously toxic and has issues. You've moved on and that's the best thing you can do. Be safe and have fun.
the only reason i care is because we have been good friends for 14 years, i know she has issues she has told me about most of them. i know how important i am to her as a friend (she has told me many times) so its a little dif in terms of just being a crazy ex. i do care about her her health and her sanity so i want to understand and talk to her because of our past relationship before dating i just can't leave things or end things where they are. just can't do it to ehr because i know how devastating it would be to her