What do you think is worse during a breakup or a date stops seeing you: Being ghosted or them telling you straight up that its over?

[Still-alive]

I don't know about you but i'd rather hear from their own mouth that they are no longer interested rather than them ghosting me. at least in the former i know for sure even if it still hurts.

When they ghost i still don't know for sure that its over. there's no exclamation point at the end of the sentence... so im left wondering 'is it over or not.' I don't tolerate ghosting anymore but even when it still happens it still hurts me more in the long run than if they simply told me it was over.

Well maybe you feel differently than i do. what do you think?

Yes Ghosting me feels worse than them telling me its over

No them telling me its over hurts more

They both hurt about the same for me

It depends (say how)

I just wanna see results

[Biancam13]

I'd prefer for him to tell me straight up. In general at least. If he ghosts me, I'm left wondering what why how etc. And that confusion sucks. It also feels super disrespectful if they just ghost after a long or significant relationship. It shows that he probably never really valued the relationship. So while telling me we should break up still hurts a lot, I'd much rather they did that.

[Hawkes_Lady]

In my opinion, I would rather them tell me to my face that they want out of the relationship. It doesn't even matter what the reason is that they want out. I want a definitive answer.

Ghosting allows them to save face and not have to do the adult thing. It is the easy way out for them meaning they don't have to stand up and tell you that they want to end things leaving you wondering.

[Bethany22]

I voted telling me it's over hurts more. I prefer a guy ghosting, because it allows me time to reflect on how I'd be fine either way if he ever did contact me again. If he told me directly, then I might wind up crying right in front of him because I wouldn't have had any time to consider the benefits of not seeing him again. So in a way, by ghosting me, he allows me to save face. Namely, if I never try continuously reaching out to him to see if we're still together, then he can just assume I'm not hurt by it. It also makes him look less arrogant to think that I would actually need closure.

[Still-alive]

i really don't understand this logic at all. because when they ghost you receive no definite answer.

but to each their own

[kylee2437]

@Bethany22 yeah but accepting a person that has ghosted you and letting them back in afterward is letting them know that you hold no standards to yourself and don’t care if you are treated like trash. Like @Still-alive said to each their own

[kylee2437]

Someone that ghosts you definitely brings so much pain because you are forever trying to sort out in your head if it was you or them. It forever creates that gap and it almost always resorts to people thinking that they are the problem when in reality a person that approaches people trying to date without having basic communication skills down is the biggest red flag possible to have when dating. That’s someone telling you straight to your face “hey I want to date but I lack communication skills so I did you a complete favor but stepping out of your life so you don’t have to further tolerate my inability to effectively communicate like an adult.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Being ghosted is worse - as it keeps you waiting and hoping.

It’s better to be told straight up.

[LittleMelissa9614]

Definitely a little of both. But to me mostly, it hurts so much when they straight up say it's over! I've had both happened to me but the second one still hurts the most. My recent breakup, I ended being the one telling me ex boyfriend it's over and it still hurt me sooo bad. It hurt me more than it hurt him. He just brushed it off in the end. I had a good reason for it though. I deserve a man way better than what I went through with him!

[MikeTheBartender]

I voted it depends, less than 3 months I really don't mind if they ghost me, you will figure it out, more than 3 months maybe you have some sort of bond and there is a need for an explanation. Of course if you had spent every day the 3 months together it would be different, there's a lot of it depends in there, but really comes down to how long we're together and how intense was it.

[Sparkie460]

It has never happened to me but being ghosted I think would be the worst. At least if they said it was over, you'll know it's over

[Still-alive]

You're lucky then. im sure you know what ghosting is. where they just never contact you ever again without informing you why.

[Sparkie460]

Yes I know what ghosting is. I always broke it off with my exes. I gave them a reason why it was over. I never ghosted anyone either

[DeeDeeDeVour]

"If" it ever happens to me, I prefer to be told straight to my face because I need that closure.

[7Phoenix7]

I would rather you tell me. Because then I know at least you care enough to do that. Ghosting is so cold. Like you don't care at all.

[Miristheiss]

Ghosting because the ghosted will never have any closure or any idea what happened.

[Peter_Penetrator]

How can l learn from my mistakes without an explanation.

[Drumlin2001]

Ghosted.
If you're gunna end it have the guts to face them

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Ghosting me is the worst they can do.

[LiamJHayden]

I prefer she just tell me. Being ghosted can lead someone to wonder if the other person is injured or worse.

[Slim57]

I've been ghosted too many times, just wish I could get a text from them saying they weren't interested, it's as simple as that

[mandyfire98]

Ghosting is the worst.

[MorningDew90]

It is better to know to be able to move on.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Ghosting, because there is no closure.

[thegreenyogi]

Being ghosted for sure.

[PreciousJewel]

They ghost you so they get in your head

[petitedollbabee]

Being ghosted 100%.