Just accept the pain at the start block them remove everything like pictures that you'll see regularly or other reminders. Learn from what didn't work. And then just move on with life. At first just get through the day and do things that need to be done but after a while the brain automatically starts to adjust to a new routine and all the habits of the relationship fade away and it becomes easier to not think about it. Of course it depends on how long the relationship was and how important it was to us since there's levels to that but the process is still the same. There's nothing we can do to speed it up. But you can avoid dragging it out.
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I always go absolutely no contact, no excuses, no “let’s be friends” nonsense. If you’re my ex, you’re never going to see me again.
I think the best way is to decide that you were never really suited to each other and their actions have played this out.
Usually this takes time to occur, and if you didn't know each other well to begin with, years can go by, or a serious event has to occur to show that you just can't stay together.
And also, relationships have timelines. They work for periods of time and then they often fizzle out. This happens with friendships, acquaintances, jobs, marriages, relationships. You were in the right place right time. Finally, that's no longer true.
Be grateful you found this out and weren't stuck with each other forever. Good luck.
The first thing to do is to accept that it's over between you two and that it was never meant to be and that's when you'll have peace with yourself and your situation and that's when you can try to interact with other people and keep yourself busy.
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Have sex with someone else that finds you attractive and that you find attractive as well , you don’t have to rush into a new relationship with anyone , but it’s better to invest your time into yourself and that someone new, instead of investing your time into an ex , that no longer values or wants you anymore, that probably already cheated on you in the first place , so if your ex truly loved and valued you? they wouldn’t of broke up with you in the first place? Never be a sitting duck for anyone that can easily walk away from you , you will be just wasting your time and energy on someone that chose to walk away from you instead of choosing to stand by you. People that hold onto their exes are just wasting their time, and energy on someone that is no longer there , bottom line is , people don’t walk away from people they truly love and care about , so always remember these words , it will hopefully help you move on and look At relationships a different way and hopefully help you meet someone that values you like you value them. Love only comes from valuing yourself worth first , once you learn to love yourself and be happy with yourself , more than likely someone else will want to share that with you , Taking an ex back is like trying to reheat Mcdonald French fries in a microwave , it will never be the same
Dating again... honestly. Rebound fucks and girlfriends/ boyfriends does help you get over you ex.
Dating either validates all the reasons why that relationship failed. Because the more people of the opposite sexy you come into contact with validates why all you previous relationships failed, it forces you learn and get better at dating. You start to make smarter and better choices and you learn when to get out of a relationship and when one really had the legs to endure.
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Meeting other women accomplished that quickly
Easy strategy. Find another woman, which I did after dating several.
Learning to accept that it didn’t work out and why it didn’t work out, there won’t be a future, and it’s okay to miss/love them even though it all hurts. Go at your own pace. Be gentle while staying honest with yourself it is okay you love/miss them and why it also won’t work out due to the break up. Cut/give space in communicating with your ex and don’t see them anytime soon, but solely focus on yourself, your healing journey, what did you learn from this relationship and yourself, and your life/goals after the relationship.
going on dates with other people who you find attractive and/or potentially compatible with will help you realize you’re still worthy, you can also build connection with others that isn’t just your ex and maybe in more ways than you expected, you still a bomb ass catch, and your soulmate is in your future and not your past.if your ex is meant to come back and be yours, it will happen once you guys grown abit and resolved old issues while you were apart.
Stop sugarcoating things. Recognize that he was NOT Mr. Perfect. While I am not perfect either, there were some real issues that were being covered up. Accept it for what it is. Don't lie to yourself. Accept the real truth. It's fine to be upset, disappointed and angry. Process your feelings in a healthy manner, work on loving yourself and healing, then focus on moving on when you are ready for a new relationship.
Forget about the past. Leave it behind where it belongs. Delete the messages. Delete the pics. Remove them from social media. You have no business still being informed of their every move and they don't need to know yours. As harsh as it sounds, just stop carrying. That chapter of your life is over. Move on to the next one.
The first thing is to be sure that you want to be over your ex. Once you are sure on that, first thing is to block them everywhere. Memories are not good when it comes to moving on. Second thing is mental strength. You need to be mature. Being practical helps here. You should understand that end of a relationship is not end of world for you.
This should also know that you will feel weak, need your ex at times. But the ones who are practical move on faster. When you are ending something, be sure on it.Usually it's get your mind off of them. Stay busy, surround yourself with friends. Another way is to honestly go out on dates. Focus on other men or women.
Not my ex but a really big crush I had and ended bad for me… I moved… BIG move. I got away from everything. Just gave life and myself a fresh coat of paint. Lived new experiences. Made new memories.
I highly recommend this solution. It gives you a sense of how small you and your problems really are. Really bursts your little hometown bubble.
Usually I just kept myself busy and summon my inner social butterfly...
But my last breakup happened 7 months ago and I still struggle most days
Sometimes its harder to get over the ones we didn't want to loose
The trauma is almost like a sudden death of a loved one... suddenly gone... can't see, touch or here their voice anymore ...I was extremely depressed for weeks. Then one night I got drunk at a bar with a buddy and he said something to me about getting over her and the next morning I woke up feeling completely normal and found myself over it. To this day neither one of us remember what he told me. Lol.
I deleted all her pics, I deleted all her emails and DM. Burned some gift we shared—very personal ones—, 🤔I... Gave away a teddy she gave me as present, to a local church (they were begging for charity). Essentially, most things that reminded me the relationship we had.
Forgive him…. Forgiving does not mean forgetting… It allows you to not be reminded of the negative every time his name is mentioned or the thought of him pops into your head. Forgiveness is for your well being, not his.
No one want a threesome for a relationship. But if you do not settle this in your heart then you bring him with you into your next relationship.Ghosted him. It might work for others to stay friends but personally, no contact is best after breaking up. There's a saying, if people stay friends after a break up, they either were never in love or still in love.
First process it and flush it out of your system, so think of it like a poison that you are slowly getting rid of, then stay busy. The rest will come with time and realization of mistakes you made, which you can learn from.
I have been in that phase, where I could not get over it for around 4 years because I felt that I was incapable of being with another person, but I honestly in those 4 years realised that it's how you perceive the other person. Actually you are here as one, you came alone and you are going that way. In between what you do is a choice and it should always be so. . . Instead of compulsion of any sort!
As the guy cheated on me, I broke up with him and blocked any further contact. Another one, we both agreed, that our relationship was a mistake, but we continue to talk once in a while.
Falling in love again with a better person and telling his close friends about it. It feels satisfying, helpful to forget about the pain, makes your mind busy off old painful memories, and has a slight taste of vengeance when he knows how happy you are (good in the scenario of him being the reason or the one who broke off the relationship)
Doing all the things I couldn't do or at least not to the fullest when I was in a relationship. So basically just be in a live relationship with me and myself.
It doesn’t take time, maybe 4 months to forget the person. Then 1 year to free myself from the issues related to us.
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