Why does he text to "check in"?

[mandiixx]

my ex and i broke up a month ago, we were together for 5 years. he broke up with me and it wasn't mutual, i wanted us to try fixing the relationship together. however, he wanted to leave so it had ended.

i found out that a week after we broke up, he already has a new girlfriend. i know he had to be talking to her during our relationship, meaning he cheated on me. so he only broke it off when he was sure he was going to have this girl after he left me. disgusting.
he blocked/deleted me on social media, but he still texts me to "check in."

i haven't answered after i found out he cheated on me, and he has sent three texts in 2 days asking the same things, like how are you, is everything okay, so i know its eating him up that i haven't answered him!!!
but what is the reason he's checking in if he already has a new girlfriend? is it just to make himself feel better?

truthfully, i feel like i meant absolutely nothing to him if he was able to cheat on me and just leave.. i have no idea if he was seeing this girl on the side, but he was very quick to get into a relationship with her, introduce her to his family and everything. it was a quick replacement.

so if he was able to move on this quick, why is he checking in on me?

[Unknown52749]

Very strange behavior and I honestly don't know either. I can think of a couple potential scenarios.

1. Maybe this new girl broke up with him already and he's alone so he's trying to get back with you.

2. He thought he liked this girl enough to cheat and then break up with you but now that they're together maybe he found something that she does that he doesn't like. Maybe if this is happening it's making him remember/miss how things were with you, or just something that you did with him that's better then the new girl.

3. He's diabolical and evil, he wants to keep you on a loose leash by breaking up with you cold turkey like. But then trying to sprinkle warmth in your direction to make you feel like theirs a chance to get back with him. That way if things with this new girl don't go well then he'd have a "Back Up/ Safety Net" meaning you. Truly evil this scenario is, hopefully this isn't the case.

4. He has some form (s) of brain issue (s). Wanted this new girl more maybe because she's new and that's a trilling experience for him or something. Playing his life like it's Sims 4 and not having any immediate remorse for his actions but as time goes his guilt slowly eats at him. So now he's trying to feel better about himself by "Checking in on you". Not to knowledgeable on brain disorders but maybe bipolar or something, I don't know.

These are the possible reasons I can think of off the top of my head. But they're people that drink gasoline and eat dish washer soap so honestly I feel like it's impossible to know for sure. People are crazy nowadays. I would just block all forms of contact with this guy and move on. Probably would want to tell all of your friends and family that he's in contact with to do the same. And if he knows where you live and where you work, probably carry some means of self defense with you (Taser, Pepper Spray, etc.). He probably won't try anything but better safe then sorry.

[mandiixx]

they didn't break up yet, they are still together. to be honest, #3 and #4 is the most accurate description of him. i've come to learn that he's a narcissist. arguments would happen between us because i'd open up with emotions about something he did that bothered me, and it would be twisted around and make it seem like he is the victim. he does want this new girl because it's his "shiny new toy".. he only left me when he was sure he had his new supply.
i found out from an old friend of his about this new girl, and when my ex described what happened with us, he said he broke up with me because i fought with him so he got a new girlfriend. literally described it so casually as if he just changed a new part on a car. he had no remorse, nothing. he is very cold-hearted person.

[Unknown52749]

Dang I'm sorry you went through so much with him. But on the bright side, now you can cut out that cancer. Leave him in the past crawling around in the dirt like a snake and live your life. I hope things only get better for you.

[Socaljp]

I wouldn't even worry about it if was me. He can just piss off. Time for you to move on and find someone new who will be better for you anyways. He most likely was talking to the other girl before the breakup. Who knows why he checks in on you but who cares. Block him and move on.

[rosemilk]

he probably feels guilty. don't answer so it'll hurt him more :)

[Paris13]

Maybe Guilt Ride and "No Hard Feelings." Ignore Him. xxoo

[Paris13]

Welcome to Gag and Best of Luck. Next Time, You do the Voting. lolxxoo

[AndrewAzul]

Definitely ill in the head, this is just fun for him

[ThrillSeeker01]

Maybe he's just messing with you. I'd ignore him.

[Anonymous]

Very strange. He is clearly hasn't moved on yet