Hi all, yesterday I broke up with my boyfriend. It wasn't a big screaming match or anything of the sort, I just hit my limit with him and broke things off. Blocked him on everything, and it's too cold for anyone to be out.
I feel pretty horrible for him because he is a genuinely nice dude, but a lot of his behavior was too much for me to handle and asking for some time for myself... Was a bit too much for him. I did things wrong too, I was silent about why I wasn't talking or going out much because I didn't want to hurt his feelings.
Now that we've broken up... I don't feel sad or broken. I feel free. I feel like weights have been lifted off of me and I can be myself again. It feels awful to say because I know he probably doesn't feel like how I do.
For anyone wanting context:
We've been dating since September last year. We were childhood best friends since I was 13 but only confessed to each other a week before making it official. At first, it was all well and good. I would spend time with him, go places, and stay at his home. However, we had a pretty significant argument on a Sunday morning. He was talking about how he could kill God because of a misquoted Bible verse. I said I didn't want to talk about religion so early, and he said I would be going to church anyways so what's the difference. I told him again to drop the topic and he got really fussy about it so I went home. After that, I started questioning the entire relationship. Every time I tell him that I'm uncomfortable, he says he'll just "shut up and not talk at all since he's such a bad guy". The one time I've seen him shitfaced, he punched my car multiple times and threatened to hurt his dogs. So, I took a week at first to think about our relationship. The WHOLE TIME I was trying to take a break, he would either talk about how much he wants to hurt/kill himself or we'd have a short small normal talk. It made me uncomfortable enough to just... Want more space. A month went by until we broke up.
I feel pretty horrible for him because he is a genuinely nice dude, but a lot of his behavior was too much for me to handle and asking for some time for myself... Was a bit too much for him. I did things wrong too, I was silent about why I wasn't talking or going out much because I didn't want to hurt his feelings.
Now that we've broken up... I don't feel sad or broken. I feel free. I feel like weights have been lifted off of me and I can be myself again. It feels awful to say because I know he probably doesn't feel like how I do.
For anyone wanting context:
We've been dating since September last year. We were childhood best friends since I was 13 but only confessed to each other a week before making it official. At first, it was all well and good. I would spend time with him, go places, and stay at his home. However, we had a pretty significant argument on a Sunday morning. He was talking about how he could kill God because of a misquoted Bible verse. I said I didn't want to talk about religion so early, and he said I would be going to church anyways so what's the difference. I told him again to drop the topic and he got really fussy about it so I went home. After that, I started questioning the entire relationship. Every time I tell him that I'm uncomfortable, he says he'll just "shut up and not talk at all since he's such a bad guy". The one time I've seen him shitfaced, he punched my car multiple times and threatened to hurt his dogs. So, I took a week at first to think about our relationship. The WHOLE TIME I was trying to take a break, he would either talk about how much he wants to hurt/kill himself or we'd have a short small normal talk. It made me uncomfortable enough to just... Want more space. A month went by until we broke up.
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