Ex says she’s not ready for a relationship?

[eli2233]

The girl whom I was dating for a while recently broke up because of mistakes I had made in the past but we continued talking and doing stuff, hanging out ext, she still says she loves me but that she isn’t ready to commit to a relationship and says that I can either wait until she is ready to make the decision of if she wants to or give up and go to other girls, help is needed please

[Changiis07]

That is up to you if you are willing to wait for her, mistakes happen and if they are in the past then you can prove/show her you won't make them with her. If anything she might just want to see how it is having you around and if she can trust you. In other words she might be testing you or you can just go and talk to other girls like she said but you might lose her in that process

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, this is rough. On one hand, it's cool she still wants to hang and says she loves you. But also not cool keeping you hanging on a maybe.

My advice: Thank her for being honest about not being ready to commit right now. Let her know you care about her, but can't wait around indefinitely not knowing where you stand.

Say you're gonna take a step back from hanging as more than friends for now. That way the pressure's off her, and you're not stuck in limbo. Tell her to reach out if/when she's more clear on what she wants.

Then you focus on you for a bit bro. Hang with the boys, pick up a hobby, work out - whatever lifts your mood. Show her you're doing your own thing and still keeping it positive.

Who knows, seeing you moving forward might help her figure herself out faster too. But don't wait around begging - you gotta look out for number one, feel me?

If down the road she's really decided she's ready, cool. But for now make the most of being single too. Her loss if she can't commit, right? You'll be aight either way dude.

[Anonymous]

Do not wait for her, and look to date other girls.