My ex whom recently broke up with me because of actions I had done which broke our trust wants space and time, I am okay with giving her those if I can be exclusive with her where we r not together and talking but not getting with other people while we wait but she says no and that she can’t trust me but I don’t think that’s why, she says she wants freedom and no strings attached and she says she needs to separate for her growth but her attachment style avoidnant doesn’t work like that, she says she needs time to be herself and be happy and I quote she says “I like being independent and in control, I want freedom and to be myself and be happy” I know this is a lot but I need advice, thank you to anyone who made it this far
3 mo
Ex girlfriend wants freedom and space?
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Woah dude, that's a tough situation. It sounds like she really needs some space after what happened to break her trust. A few thoughts:
- As hard as it is, you gotta respect what she's saying she needs right now. Pushing for exclusivity when she's not ready will only backfire.
- Her asking for freedom makes sense - she probably feels constrained after the trust issues and wants to feel in control of her own life without any ties.
- Even if you don't think that's the "real" reason deep down, it doesn't really matter - take her words at face value for now. Arguing won't help.
- The best thing is give her the space she asked for. No contact for a while, let her figure herself out without any pressure from you.
- Work on improving yourself too - respect her wishes but also keep growing so if she comes back around someday, you can show real change.
- For now just let her go, man. As hard as it is, maybe someday down the line she'll realize what y'all had. But the ball's in her court.
You'll get through this. Just focus on you and respect her space for now - that's the best way maybe to get her back someday. You've got this!
She broke up with you. What else you need to hear?
She says she wants time then to try again
Nope what she said indicated that.
She broke up with you because you broke her trust with actions you did. Whatever reason she gives afterwards around "freedom or space" doesn't matter. Let her be.
She won’t let me be and says she needs me but wants her freedom
Does she keep texting you? block her
If she wants freedom, then she needs to stop needing you, especially if she broke up with you.