Backstory: My ex girlfriend and I had been together for 6 months. It was the most beautiful relationship I had ever been in (I’m in my 30’s), full of love, fun, respect… We had our arguments, but what couples don’t? We had plans for the future (she was planning on moving in with me this spring w/her 2 kids), we had talked about marriage, kids, all of it… Early in December, we found out she was pregnant (unplanned). We decided to keep the baby, but then, at the end of the month, she found out that she lost the baby 😢 During the week she found this out, we had had a disagreement and hadn’t talked much. I was away for Christmas, so I couldn’t go to her house and see her. The week I got home, she had a procedure to finalize the loss of pregnancy, and that same week, she broke up with me - via text. I was completely taken aback, never saw it coming (we had just celebrated her birthday, I took her to my hometown for my sisters wedding, took her to NYC for Christmas in the city festivities, and we celebrated Christmas a few days early before I went to see my family). She cited the fact that I made her feel alone and uncared for during this time of loss - our communication was terrible over that week, I was constantly trying to start convo via text, she gave me very dry responses, and ultimately said that all she wanted was for me to have called her… The breakup: Again, it was via text, and I was blindsided. She refused to talk with me after, even after I tried to call her. I ended up giving her some space, and 2 weeks ago, she reached out asking to meet and talk… I took this as a good sign and was excited! That convo was set to be this weekend, and today, she texted, saying that she had to cancel. Said that she had a busy weekend w/friends in town, and she didn’t want to have a “heavy conversation” before having to host friends for the weekend…
What does she mean by having a heavy convo, especially seeing as she was the one asking to talk? None of this makes sense to me
