Boyfriend and I had a fight, but he still hasn't decided what he "wants" - input?

[Anonymous]

We had a fight a week ago and had not spoken ever since. He had last told me he wanted space and needed to think things over. I've respected that.

He called me, a week later, wanting to know how I am and wanting to know how life had been. He updated me on his life as well and seems he got bitten by karma a bit because his life had been a bit hectic. He was nice with things. We didn't have any issues. No raised voices, just normal conversation. He just didn't mention anything about what happened and never said he wanted us to break up... or he wanted to stay together.

He told me he had not made any decisions regarding US though. So he is still undecided on what he wants, which is a little disappointing. Like I get it, but how does it take this long?

Should I give up or still keep giving him a chance to work it out? I love him, but this is a little annoying.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh that's so frustrating, I'm sorry you're still stuck in limbo like this! A week is definitely long enough to decide if he wants to be with you or not.

I would give him a little more time, maybe another few days, but also have a talk with him. Make it clear you can't wait around forever not knowing where you stand. Tell him you care about him but need to know if he sees a future or if it's time for you to move on.

It's possible he's just scared of making the wrong choice after the fight. Or maybe he's not completely over something and needs help sorting through his feelings. In any case, don't let him string you along indefinitely without commitment.

You could also say that if he's still unsure in X amount of time, you think it's best if you take a break from talking. Absence might make the heart grow fonder for him or give you both clarity. But don't accept being a maybe forever!

At a certain point you have to look out for yourself too. I'd give him a deadline and then stick to your guns about moving on if he can't decide by then. You deserve someone who's sure they want to be with you!

[laly520]

ig he is done with u

[Anonymous]

I say give him an ultimatum.