Do you have to tell the truth why you want to break-up? (Page 2)

[WhitneySnow]

I think that’s fine what you’re going to say to him. No need to hurt him by going into details. Not like you cheated.

[laly520]

say it as it is
the whole truth
the more u r honest the more peaceful u would feel in future

[Asker]

Even though the truth sounds too direct. The whole truth would actually sound like this:
''David I'm breaking up because just love isn't enough. We don't have the same goals, you don't want kids ever and I do. I'm not happy anymore and found someone else with my same goals''.

[laly520]

u have every right to break up, to seek a more compatible lover
just be honest

[BaronVonBarron]

We all know you already have another guy. Girls never leave without securing another relationship. They always lie about the real reason. If I were him I would appreciate the truth. It would make me respect you more.

[Slim57]

Women like you suck. What a horrible person you are for wasting 3 years of that mans time when he's probably really in love with you

[Asker]

Well it wasn't intentional. How on earth was I suppose to know I would find wanting kids very important one day and that realize eventually couldn't handle that huge incompatibility?

[Asker]

He can find another woman that never wants kids. They're easier to find.

[Asker]

Just being in love isn't enough if he doesn't ever want kids.

[Jamara]

Not necessarily. Sometimes being diplomatic can be less hurtful to someone’s feelings than being bluntly truthful.

[spartan55]

Please don't use this. It's... not good.

[jahaims]

You tell the truth to people you respect

[Anonymous]

The truth may hurt but it gives closure to the other person and helps him move on.

[Jamie05rhs]

I agree with @HelpfulWoman.

[Asker]

But I want kids and he never wants. I can't compromise on that no matter how much love there is. The solution is obviously to find someone else on my same page with like-minded goals and I have so therefore I'll break up.

[Jamie05rhs]

You should have broken up with him as soon as you discovered this point of incompatibility.

Waiting until you found someone else just makes you a coward.

[Asker]

Yeah I should've ended it much earlier. I do accept fault for staying in a relationship with a huge incompatibility. At least I never cheated and I'm still doing the decent thing by breaking up.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay

[Rangers]

That would be the decent thing to do, yes

[OtterMan68]

honesty is the best policy

[lildkman1010]

Is it the sex

[Asker]

Nope. It's the huge incompatibility of wanting kids and him never wanting to form a family ever.