Girlfriend slept with someone else while we were broken up. I respect why she did it, but I still feel bad for it. How do I manage these thoughts?

[rolangaros]

[mandyfire98]

You just have to realize if she's not in a relationship with you then she's not yours. When you are both single you're free to do whatever you want to. It's called living life. People will date others, it's part of life.

You just have to get over the fact that she slept with someone else. If you started dating someone after y'all broke up, you wouldn't want her to make a huge deal out of you sleeping with someone else. You'd say "hey we were broken up"

[Lliam]

Was she a virgin when the two of you first got together? If not, then the fact that she has had sex with someone besides you shouldn't be an issue.

Why did you guys break up? Whose idea was it?

When you were apart, she had needs. And she had a right to fulfill them because you had broken up. She was single.

But now your back together, right? She is choosing to be with you. If you also want to be with her, you need to forget about the fact that she had sex with someone, just as you got over the fact that she had previous boyfriends before you met the first time.
No big deal.

The thing to remember is, she wants you and you want her. I don't know if you two are in love or not. But if you are, you need to hold onto your relationship and don't fuck up by being weird. Don't cause another breakup.

You can communicate with her and tell her how you feel, but don't lay a guilt trip on her.

[TommyMountainFigure]

You do so by putting things into perspective, and then by rationalising them.

Imagine a scenario whereby you never got back with her, and ended up dating someone new instead. That person likely will have slept with other people before you, so will you feel bad then? It's the same thing when you think about it!

The only difference is, you still believe that even though you were broken up she still belonged to you! THAT is what you need to learn to accept.. she wasn't, and unless you can? You may as well break up again now because that feeling will not go away until you have your next blazing argument and it all resurfaces.

Are you prepared for that, or can you rationalise it and put it into perspective as I mentioned up top?

[GeminiDiamond]

Ugh what? So you didn't tell a story. Did you get back together? Did you also sleep with someone? No female is your property. Even when you were together. Why would you have thoughts after the fact of breaking up? She probably didn't/doesn't like being controlled. Instead of being happy for her happiness, your hung up on weird shit.

[DishLady]

You just have to get over it. She wasn’t with you. It wasn’t cheating. It’s in the past.

[Finchie40]

That’s why you move on from exes

[BetaBucks]

It means she doesn't respect you or value you. She wanted other dicks more than she wanted to work things out with you. While she was getting drilled by those superior men (there were more than whatever she said) and doing all the acts she refuses to do with you (she did for sure), she wasn't thinking about you for a second. I bet she even like the taste of their cum more. There's nothing you're going to do to feel better about it. Every time you bang her from here on out, you'll be thinking about how much more she liked the other dude's banging her, and it's going to haunt you for the whole relationship.

As mean as this sounds, you and I both know it's true. It hurts. But you either accept the pain and embarrassment, or you move on. I promise you, as sure as I'm alive, you'll never fully get over it.

[Juxtapose]

Actually most promiscuous women I talk to say that one night stands tend to be awful fucks and that someone who knows your body is much better at fucking you than some random dude.

One night stands with only really be good for women if they had a huge gangbang going on.

[PatKirby]

Dude you want some solid advice from experience? She slept with him in her mind long before the break up. Was probably looking for a reason to break up. Today's contemporary females feel entitled to cheat and brag about doing so to each other. YouTube is filled with instances just like this which is a direct result of their hypergamous nature. They have a long list of beta orbiters they can call on in a moment's notice. She was never yours, you were just next.

Advice is to move on with what dignity you have left from this emotional abuser who probably made you think it was your fault to begin with. Find a quality woman you deserve who loves and respects you for the man you are inside. Good luck and hope this helps you.

[SugarSugarplum]

Remember from the movie Megamind when he tells Ginormica he can't open the hangar doors because "That's what happens when you hit the self-destruct!"?

You broke up. That's what happens when you break up. If you want it not to happen again, don't break up.

[SugarSugarplum]

LOL I really MESSED THAT UP! The movie was Monsters vs. Aliens, and it was Galaxar!

[Stanley]

Even if you understand her reasons, it doesn't mean it hurts any less. Give yourself time to process these feelings, and don't be too hard on yourself for having them. Talking openly with her about how you feel might help, as can focusing on the positive aspects of your relationship now. If the feelings persist, consider chatting with a therapist. Remember, it’s okay to feel conflicted, and it takes time to work through these emotions. You're not alone in this.

[MisterWack]

Tell her how it made you feel, to have someone so close heart to heart then feel the love violated & thrown to the ground… Tell her how much you love her still that it hurts, it isn’t about a resolution or resolve. It is about showcasing your feelings about being her man and you are the luckiest man in the world that it hurt you. Just cope, don’t yell or raise your voice just tell her how you feel.

[remix]

I get it, that’s a tough situation. Even if you were broken up, it’s still hard to deal with those feelings. It’s totally normal to feel conflicted. On one hand, you respect her reasons and understand it logically, but emotionally, it still stings. Try to give yourself some grace and time to process it. Talk to her about it if you haven't already, and let her know how you feel. Open communication can really help in situations like this.

Remind yourself why you two got back together and the positives in your relationship now. If it continues to bug you, maybe consider talking to a therapist to sort through those emotions. Sometimes an outside perspective can make a big difference. At the end of the day, it’s about finding a balance between respecting her actions during the breakup and honoring your own feelings. You got this, man. Just take it one step at a time.

[PeachyPie93]

Either you let it go and move on or you don't and you break up. There is only two options. You just have to realize she chose you and not that other guy, so is that enough for you? If not you need to let the relationship go.

[Dongie]

Do you feel you are owed one? How many times and more than one guy? Did you not score? How long were you two lovebirds apart? You don't have to answer all that. I'd feel cheated if it was only a couple weeks. She used it to get over you.

Who knows. That sucks tho.

[Jessikaah91]

You're entitled to your feelings, don't let anyone tell you to just get over it like you're not allowed to feel something. But yes you guys were broken up so there isn't much you can do, just have to keep living life and try moving on yourself.

[dustybiker2]

You were broken up. You'll not move past this, it's better to just accept it and move on or you'll only hold it against her.

[delsworld]

I believe it would start with understanding that it doesn't in any way diminish the conscious choice she's made to be in a relationship with you. Building confidence within yourself should appease the feelings of insecurity as well.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

If you two aren’t together you two can bang whoever you want & in this case she did because you two were broken up.

[Nikki1989]

You are zero reason to feel bad or even care. That is teenager kind of nonsense. Get over it.

[avery58]

If you can't then reconsider if you really want the relationship. Even though she didn't cheat I could understand why you would feel hurt, your feelings are completely valid.

[provokeesmokee]

You mean your ex slept with someone else while you weren't dating and now you want her back?

Bruh, what?

[on_my_knees]

The global sex toy market is valued at $33 billion. Your girlfriend just happened to find a free one that was attached to a male body.

[Purpleronnie]

How would you expect her to feel if it was the other way around? … are you only messed up about it because you didn’t sleep with anyone else?

[Jersey2]

As Ross on Friends said

maybe it’s time to move on

[meepmeeperton]

I don’t think I would ever get over that and I would just break up with her for good.

[JesseP1nk]

But you are back together now? If yes, then i would dump her and find someone else. Sure she can do what she wants while broken up but you dont have to take her bitch ass back

[msc545]

You stop spending any time with her and have nothing further to do with her and go find somebody that isn't going to betray you 2 minutes after you break up.

[elizamichale1]

If u were broken up then she had every right...

[FunkyMonkee]

You were no longer a couple! She was free to fuck whoever she wanted, as were you!

[Friendlybro79]

I'd say therapy is something that can help you manage your feelings. Good luck

[DrPepper12]

You were broken up. Move on. If you can't handle it, break up.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

It's normal you feel the way you do. I suggest endure the pain til it heals then move on with your life.

[coachTanthony]

She’s for the streets move on

[LiamJHayden]

No idea. When I break up, I move on. Not interested in sequels.

[In_Trance]

If you had your shit together you would have railed someone else too

[moneymagnet24]

Dude there is always other guy in her list while she is with you... move on.

[valentina25]

You were separated from her, and she wasn't your girlfriend the entire time you were separated. So you should stop feeling bad about it

[Anonymous]

You gotta get over it or leave. You shouldn't have broken up in the first place.

[HH1488]

Avoid her like the plague and look for a pure woman to date and live your life with.

[blueonblack22]

Are you back together with her now?

[CallmeTheKnight]

You two were broken up….

[handsomelad70]

GET RID OF HER A**, BOYO !!!

[Peridot25]

I mean….. they’re already broken up

[handsomelad70]

@Peridot25 GOOD !!!

[SkatPak392]

she's for the streets, cut her ass off.

[jahaims]

Find a better relationship

[gorydetails]

That's why you don't get back with exes.

[Twalli]

You weren't together, she could do as she wished.