Should you break up if you fight all the time?

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DishLady · Accepted Answer

So... as a mediterranean gal I have to say... there are "disagreements" that end when a hot plate of food hits the table and then there are all-out to-the-death fights that are very dramatic and draining.

Personally, I'm not a fan of arguing, period. If I see something shady I call it out. They have a fixed amount of time for a plausible rebuttal before the upcoming meal or mid-day coffee hits the table. Once the food is there, calm down, relax, and stop grumbling and fussing bc it's bad for your digestion.

If I have to stand around and continually argue with someone about the same thing over and over again... or someone is accusatory about stuff that clearly I wouldn't do so it's nonsense (and usually inflammatory projecting of something THEY are doing wrong...), then I call bs on the exchange and -- if no reasonable resolution is possible -- on the relationship.

If the argument involves any level of gaslighting, violence, etc. etc. etc., I'm out quicker than you can say "game over." I've already lived through that hell and never want to deal with it again. There's no reason to let yourself be in such a toxic environment or situation... ever.

Jessikaah91 · Accepted Answer

That depends really, like me and my partner argue which arguments can be a healthy part of a relationship because you're showing you care about something enough to bring it up even if it's in argument.. if you're not fighting then you're hiding how you feel from your partner and probably shouldn't be with them. Especially if living with them there's always gonna be something you dislike and fight about, but I'm not gonna leave him over it, because I also remember everything that I have been through and how he was my biggest support person/rock being the only one who was there for me. But if it's a constant battle that makes you unhappy and it starts getting physical then maybe it's time to move on and leave that relationship.

standardguy · Accepted Answer

First you have to analyse why you fight all time. Is it your fault? Are you inable to find agreements which are okay for both? Are you too different in opinions and wishes? So perhaps was it an error zo choose each other as partners? Or did somebody of you two change and think its okay to behave different? So if there were made errors you should try to resolve them, return to the good old times and remove the pride to think that you have to realize yoursrlf though the relationship is the crnter of the life.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

Depends. What's the make-up like?

IslaTheWitch · Answer

if there is no learning process involved... if they don't try to improve it... then I don't think that staying in this relationship makes any sense

Alli112 · Answer

I mean, why are you fighting? But also, if you can't get along even when you try then you probably aren't making each other happy.

electromagnetic · Answer

You should probably sit down and see what it is that y’all keep fighting about. Then go from there.

purplepoppy · Answer

It's a pretty good sign you're not right for each other.

molonski2 · Answer

Obviously YES , not remotely healthy to very disturbing and vastly negative energy that will upset all other factors of your life , certainly split , its not worth the drama.

FreyaRed · Answer

Depends. Some couples need drama and reconciliation others like mutual sadism and masochism.

paledreams · Answer

Yes I don't know how couples thrive on fighting I've seen in the past couples brag yes brag that they "fight like anything yet love each other" I mean who says that? Lol 😆🤣 and that was the woman saying that about 'her man" hahaha her bae (bae was a thing in 2010s era to 2016?) lol 😆

strangeatcircleK · Answer

It's tricky... It really depends on the fruit of the relationship  Is there still a benefit to the relationship for the both of you?  Fighting is healthy but the fighting needs to be productive

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think so, why be miserable throughout your life even if you love the person. I know I would not last in such a negative relationship.

katiesmuff · Answer

Well unless your fighting on purpose just for the make up sex then it seems to me going different directions might be the best solution.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Depends. Is it passion or annoyance? There is a difference.

Unit1 · Answer

yep. I'm old enough to respond to someone trying to convince me, that 2+2=5 with "you are correct. Enjoy the good weather"

NathanDavis · Answer

fight about what?

SotiCoto · Answer

Nah. Fighting is half the fun of a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on what you argue over. When I genuinely love a guy I’ll fight with him. I don’t fight with my guy now because we are comfortable and I’m not sure that’s a good place to be either

CieloAzul · Answer

Tension in a relationship can cause exhaustion and this will lead to loss the energy to do anything.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Actual fights rather than just disagreements, yes.

Wiredone · Answer

If you can't sit down and talk it out like adults are supposed to, yeah end the relationship

Dongie · Answer

Yes, unless the two thrive on it and it hurts absolutely nobody else.

summiter · Answer

If it is frequent or constant there is an underlying problem. If you can't get to the bottom of it then yes it may be good to part.

Anonymous · Answer

No, just hang in there until one of you kills the other one. :) :) :)

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Only if the couple have common sense.

Itsmeirem · Answer

If you are fighting about the same topics over and over again you should break up.

Staximus · Answer

Yeah, why would you not want peace?

msc545 · Answer

Yes, unless you can work it out.

DrPepper12 · Answer

ain't nobody got time for that!

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