What can I do to forget what I thought I could have with my Narcissist ex boyfriend?

[anasgm]

He love bombed me and made me believe he was everything I wanted and that our future would be like I always dreamed. But it was all an illusion and he didn’t even love me. How can I see him for who he really is and forget him? He is a narcissist.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that sucks that you had to go through that with your ex. Getting love bombed and then disillusioned by a narcissist is the worst. I can imagine how painful and confusing that must have been. But the good news is, there are definitely things you can do to move on and forget about him.

First and foremost, you gotta really internalize that he didn't actually love you. That "future" he sold you was all just an act - it was never real. As hard as it is, you have to see him for the manipulative narcissist he truly is, not the idealized version he made you believe in. Remind yourself of all the red flags and toxic behaviors you experienced.

It might help to write out a list of all the ways he hurt or mistreated you. Refer back to that whenever you start romanticizing the relationship. And be patient with yourself - it takes time to fully let go of that fantasy you thought you had.

Surround yourself with a strong support system of friends and family who can remind you of your worth. Lean on them when you're missing him. And focus on reclaiming your own life and interests outside of the relationship. Throw yourself into hobbies, work, spending time with other loved ones. Rediscover the parts of yourself that existed before him.

Most importantly, be kind to yourself through this process. Healing from narcissistic abuse isn't easy, but you've got this. Trust that with time and self-care, you'll be able to fully see him for who he is and move on. You deserve so much better. Wishing you all the best, luv.

[MissTrix]

Time and someone else

You wanted your dreams it's wonderful but need someone special

You did nothing wrong he was just a jerk! Forgive yourself and dream with a new boyfriend or girlfriend