Should I get a divorce?

[Anonymous]

I'm married to a man that is 40 years older than me. He's very attractive and in shape. He doesn't look his age. The downside of this marriage is that he assume that a another man will take me. If I don't answer my phone when he calls and assume that I'm talking to another man... and questions me of what I was doing. Everywhere I go he assume that a man is going to approach me because he said that I'm very attractive... I took the kids to the park... and when I got home he asked me how many guys approached me today. I really love my husband... I'm not cheating... I wouldn't do that to him or mess up our family. Last week my husband was out golfing with his brother. I'm home with the kids... so I'm really busy with the kids, overstimulated, and when the kids take a nap... I try to take a nap too. When I woke up I seen that I missed his call... I called him back and he asked me who was so important that I couldn't answer his call. I told him that I took a nap... he said "yeah sure" in a sarcastic way. We decided to take the kids to an amusement park. We got a hotel and went in to check in because I put it in my name... it was a man at the counter and he was busy doing other things... so I had to wait... when he finally got to me... my husband comes walking in. He said what's the hold up... and the man at the desk said we are checking you in now. So he gave my husband the cards and we went to the car. We gather the stuff and went up to the room. As we was walking... he said I seen that man was flirting with you... He said I don't understand why it took you so long... you should have got your ass in and out. After the trip told him I had enough and I decided to take me and the kids to my mother's house. I have not heard from him since. Should I get a divorce?

[abc3643]

Not yet. But you need to be clear with something like this:

"Stop it. STOP IT! Stop with the jealousy and stop with the questions and stop with the micromanaging where I am and what I am doing and how long it takes. I am your wife. You are supposed to trust me. If you don't trust me, then we shouldn't be married because marriage is based on trust. Now, if you can't deal with it, then I WILL give you a reason to be worried."

[jahaims]

If you have to ask here you shouldn't be married to anyone

[Abbycado]

Right. So you want marital advice from total strangers. That is a sound plan.

[abc3643]

Its perfectly acceptable and actually more appropriate for her to ask us than someone she knows.

[Anonymous]

40 years older?

So he is in his mid-70s?

[OneViewpoint]

Your husband has some severe insecurities about his age and he's making your life a living hell. I'm not sure "counseling" can fix that personality flaw. Yeah I'd confront him with divorce or getting his fucking head right. You know that his brain is gonna go straight to "who's the guy you're fucking" when you tell him you want a divorce, right?

[Anonymous]

If he's 40 years older I'm guess money was a motivation and he must be getting old, you know what I mean

[Anonymous]

How do u both look

[Anonymous]

So you're 30-35 and your husband is 70-75?

[Anonymous]

Maybe you should.

[Anonymous]

You should.