Dumpers and Dumpees, do you normally hear back from your ex one day?

[Zimbo113]

Well, the love of my life left me for another guy recently, and I won't lie to you guys. I am looking here for hope. I've heard from a lot of people, after getting dumped around 6 months or so afterward, the ex will come back for whatever reason. I was always good to her, and I was her first relationship and I feel like she will one day regret it, I just miss her.

Does anyone have any stories to share about this or have any experience in this area?

[diabloknk]

I got back together with an ex once. She had left me, and about 8 months later called me up and said she wanted to talk about our relationship, and we went from there.

Bad decision. None of the issues that led to our breakup had been resolved, and four months later I left her, and had to deal with all the negative emotions I had from the first breakup again. Was not pleasant.

[Zimbo113]

Mmm. Well, our relationship never had any real 'issues'. I graduated and started to see her less, and she left me for another guy.

[diabloknk]

I'd say that counts as an issue - loss of love or feelings of abandonment. Maybe both.

[martyfellow]

Yes there is hope if you didn't lose your temper with her and make remarks she won't forgive. It's quite possible things won't work out with this new guy because he'll figure out she can't be trusted!

You have to ask yourself if she will only come back to you as a 'last option, and whether shelll just dump you again if someone 'hotter' in her view happens along.

[Zimbo113]

I never lost my temper until towards the end. I was very understanding, and I fought for her till the end. Even after she kissed him and she openly told me she wasn't sure who she wanted to be with, I still fought for her. Granted, I did break down a few times in front of her, it was never really anger, I would cry and she would start to cry as well. I mean, I sold several things I owned to pay for a trip 2 weeks before the break-up. I really, really, really tried.

[Zimbo113]

But, there were reasons for the break-up. It wasn't simply, she didn't love me anymore. Other things were involved, like her friends and me going to college. I feel one of the reasons she is dating this guy now, is because he is in her circle of friends. However, I know he won't be able to take care of her like I did. He cheated on his last girlfriend, and totally played her.

[Zimbo113]

And trust me, this guy was not hotter nor anywhere near as good in social standing as I was.

[martyfellow]

Maybe tried too hard, and a girl who would kiss a guy while still with you...I wouldn't WANT her to come back, myself.

[Zimbo113]

Most guys wouldn't. But you know s*** happens. She used to be a totally different person when she was committed to me. I'm just hoping she'll come back, because I do want her back as crazy as it sounds.

[martyfellow]

Ican understand that; but be careful.

[starlight124]

I've been both and yes oddly enough they contact me after sometime to stay friends or get back together :P like hmmm

Jason and I went out, but we were never really a couple. So we just stayed friends.

Recently I dumped this guy Alex for cheating, I wouldn't take him back no matter what he does.

[Zimbo113]

Well, she cheated on me. I went to college, and we saw each other less and less. This new guy was in love with her, and she saw him every single day.

We had a great relationship, though. I took care of her, and we had a lot of fun together. I feel like she threw it away because of the honeymoon phase, you know, the chase of something new.

[starlight124]

Aww I'm sorry, sometimes people don't realize what they have until they lose it

[Zimbo113]

Hopefully that happens, haha. She admitted several times she takes me for granted.

[samanthas]

yes I have been through this in the past and she will regret it and you will hear from her again but you should never go back because she won't be worth it just think of all them feelings you have inside she's the one that has made you feel like it you should try and move on

[elements]

I thought you ended the relationship first?

Anyways, I've never had to dump anyone or been dumped, but I don't know if holding out hope is good for you. I think that just leads to a lot of disappointment. :/

[Zimbo113]

Hah, long time :P

Well, some stuff happened since we last talked. Not very positive stuff, but I didn't stick to my word when I said I would end things.

[elements]

Uh oh, that's no good. What happened? (feel free to message me if you don't want to post it all here).

[Zimbo113]

Done. :P

[Anonymous]

I have never contacted an ex later but many of mine have tried to contact me. Most of them turned out to be kind of douchie which is why I left them. Later some of them realized or so they told me that it was a big mistake to let me go. Too bad so sad. I moved on.

[lustful1]

i think it just depends on how strong the relationship was...but I believe that you will most of the time..i always talk to my ex's but that's because I don't like leaving things in bad terms

[Anonymous]

I left my ex and I never contacted him and never will. Dumpers, most probably, don't get back with the dumpee while the dumpee still has hope. If I were you, I wouldn't set high hopes and start moving on. I'm being honest here.

[Anonymous]

Reconciliations don't work. They really don't. And they just prolong the time it takes for you to heal. She left you for another guy. Move on, be future oriented - with a different girl.