Boyfriend still has kissing pictures with ex on Facebook...

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half. He's only had one other serious relationship, and it was 4 years ago. This girl is still around, she's friends with a lot of our friends so I see her time to time. He doesn't get along with her or talk to her, but we've always been friendly. I'm not jealous or nervous about her at all, I know he is completely over her.

Well, recently she added me on Facebook and because we are friendly I accepted. A few days later I noticed my boyfriend all of a sudden had about double the amount of pictures he had previously (Yes, I'm weird and I notice this stuff) So I go looking through them and now all of the pictures she had of him are visible to me. Most of them aren't bad at all, they have other pictures of the two of them floating around and it doesn't bother me. However I found a couple that REALLY annoyed me. A couple of them kissing/making out and one of his face pretty much in her boobs.

Im kind of shocked because my boyfriend isn't like this at all, I wouldn't expect him to have pictures like that...let alone still up. I texted him letting him know they were up there and he replied that "Oh yea, I knew I just never deleted anything from Facebook". This is the part that kind of annoyed me...you know they're there and you're too lazy to figure out how to delete them? Am I overreacting or do I have a right to be mad? It's just weird knowing these pictures have been floating around on there for the last year and a half that I've been in his life and he hasn't thought to remove them..

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has all of his photos on Facebook hidden (blocked from everyone) so I can't see them but he scrolled through them quickly for me once since I thought it was weird I couldn't see them, and he has like 600 photos of him with his ex! He won't get rid of them or anything, and he won't even let me look at them. And whenever I bring it up he gets mad or ignores me. I just started dealing with it because I didn't want stupid Facebook to ruin our relationship. But it's upsetting to me. And I barely have any pictures with him...

[Anonymous]

its Facebook...its like a timeline. stuff gets posted one day, you go on with your life and you kinda forget that its there. she is in his past. you are his present. he's not thinking about those photos. get over it.

also...why should he delete something that was a part of his life? just because he's over her doesn't mean that he needs to completely erase any memory or existence of their past relationship.

[Anonymous]

Wait, so are these all pictures that she has him tagged in? Or are they pics he actually posted? I'm a little confused.

[Asker]

No she posted them...theyre from when they were dating but I just saw them now that I'm friends with her. I know he can't delete them...but he can untag himself and remove them from his profile right..? Wouldn't that be the logical thing to do?

[Opinion Owner]

Yea he could. If it bothers you that much just ask him if he can umrah them. Maybe he doesn't know how. Facebook changes like every goddamn month so it can be confusing. Point is, he's with you, not her, so I wouldn't worry that much about it.

[freemind]

Dont be mad at him. Just tell him you love him and you're not happy to see photos of him with another girl. and could he please untag himself from those photos?

[artfullyliving]

She is completely jacking you around. Unfriend her, and unfriend him, and speak to him only face to face from now on. He is like that until he isn't like that. Accept it as unkind actions and don't let people trample on your feelings again. Go to their page on Friend and scroll down to the bottom 'unfriend' --You're not over reacting. Him too, if he respects you. You'll see right away.

[Asker]

I mean he's my boyfriend...I'm not going to "unfriend him". We never have problems, I'm more just concerned that I'm overreacting and don't really know what to say to him to explain why this bothers me. He doesn't ever use his Facebook, so I don't doubt that it's just an oversight/poor judgement on his part. As far as her...I really do't know. It is weird to me she still has these pictures...

[Impex]

Man this Facebook sh*t is just the worst for relationships...seriously.

With that being said ask him a straight forward question of "Why have they been up there for so long, and don't bullsh*t me." Obviously you realize that he has clung onto them for a certain reason so get to the bottom of it and that is where your real problem will be.

[NMMan]

It is entirely possible that he just forgot all about them, especially if it's been a long time since he and the ex were dating. Convey to him that it bothered you and ask him to un-tag himself from the photos, problem solved.