Polls: Break Up & Divorce

This ex boyfriend of mine was my longest relationship of 6 months; He's very country and southern. I haven't spoken to him except for 5 minutes when his friend asked me if I still wanted to get back together with him, and we talked off his phone; this was about one month ago. Just last night though I had a dream where I met up with him because we have a lot of mutual friends and we agreed to workout the tension between us so when we hung out with friends we didn't want to kill each other. Some how though we ended up on a beach and we talked out everything, next thing I knew we were kissing and it wasn't a small kiss either, it was a long one and it felt like there was finally meaning and passion behind it. After the kiss I just broke down and started crying and he just held me saying "Everything was going to be okay and that we'd work it all out."(I never cried in front of him when we were together, and even when something was wrong he never held me like he did in my dream) While he was holding me though he pushed some hair back out of my face and kissed my forehead continuing saying "Everything's gonna be okay" after that we were back at his house and it was somehow now winter again, and I was talking to his mom and she said he really missed me. Then he came back into the room and gave me his favorite hunting jacket and we just cuddled on his couch with the fire going and watching movies; I'm not sure what would've happened next because I woke up.
If anyone could maybe help me on what this could possibly mean you'd be a great help! Also this is good to know, I'm now dating another guy, who is similar to him, but is at the same time completely different.

ok this is a weird question i know but today me and my boyfriend went into this store right and the first thing he said was do you think they have laxatives. i mean i guess its normal? right? and then i played dumb and was like oh are you lactose intolerant but hah that was a mistake. but we haven't been dating for even a month yet. i guess its nice he's comfortable around me if i want to look at it from that perspective. but im not sure this was like a really weird experience for me.

p.s. the store didn't have laxatives

My ex broke with me two months ago for an unknown reason. We had a nice 2.5 month relationship and there weren't any issues so it was a real shock when he just stopped responding to my messages. And when i encountered him in a bar few days later he didn't want to talk to me at all so i just left it like that because i didn't want to push him into something he doesn't want to do. At first i was devastated, but after two months of successful NC he still hasn't called. I feel much better now and i'm ready to move on but one part of me still wonders will he ever call me? I really liked him (up to the point of break-up when i considered him rude) and he seemed to enjoy spending time with me so this breakup left me confused.

i know that nc should be about healing, not manipulating anyone and it worked great deal for me cause i don't feel hurt as i did when i started it. and i'm not trying to play mind-games with him, i just wanted both of us to cool down and not to talk to each other for a while.

so my question is this - has nc ever worked for you and how long did it take?

I haven't talked to my ex in four months since our failed attempt at being friends after we ended things and a few weeks ago he sent me a random snapchat of him and a girl.

Through her social media I know its a new girlfriend. I didn't respond because it seemed pointless.

Two days later he sent me another one, completely random of an animal.

He was my best friend and I've never been so close to a guy before. I know I was one of the most important people in his life and at one time he thought I was the whole package and that he's never connected with someone or been able to share as much personal stuff with anyone before as he did with me, including his ex girlfriend of 4 years. The loss of friendship was hard but overall I'm at a good place and if he's happy so am I.

He seemed nonchalant about our friendship ending and that he "knew it wasn't possible for things to go back to normal," so I just don't understand what that whole thing was?

Perhaps you have trust but it still crosses your mind.

Maybe something your partner says or does makes you wonder.

Maybe you have been cheated on and have trust issues.

Maybe you don't think anyone would ever cheat on you!

Please explain all!

I met a guy via online dating. We talked for 5 weeks before meeting up. I guess I wanted to make sure he seemed normal, nice and decent. We opened up to each other about a lot of things, but as time would tell, he hid a lot too...



We slept together too early - second date. And then he pulled away and revealed more of his 'real ' self. no more sweet talking - and a lot more brash and up himself. then he would be sweet again, and send heaps of text messages, opening up about how he's a bad guy and bad influence, that his brother is a bikie and the gang comes over often. That he does drugs etc. I was shocked, but also compassionate. seemed like a cry for help. we got close again (talking - not sex) and the talks were good.



Then he was rude and asked me to pick him up from a date. I lost it and told him to grow up. It's like he enjoyed seeing that I cared. He then messaged and called asking me to please come over and see him - I ignored it.



Anyway I called him on his 'act' and games and pulled away. I told him I wouldn't see someone who treated me like dirt and spoke to me unkindly. He then put on the 'nice guy' act again, all because of the chase I think. And the harder I made it for him, the more he chased. He promised he just wanted me to give him a chance to make it right. and that if all I offered was friendship fine he would take that. so after a week of pleading, I gave in.



Wemet - but only as friends. I went to his place and he was p*ssed off when I left becuase I didn't sleep with him or even let him touch me. I told him if he begged to see me for so long after being friends, and he can't REALLY be friends - then leave me alone. It was a tactic to make him realize his own game had failed.

Anyway I still have a feeling ill hear from him again, maybe in a few days or a week. that's what he tends to do when I say 'dont contact me again'. What do I do then? He's made it clear he's talking to other girls - that's fine I'd rather someone else put up with the lies and games. but why does he keep coming back? Especially when he knows he's not getting anything from me now I know his game.

I was talking to this guy for about 3 weeks. He was all into me. Making time for me before and after work. Told me he couldn't believe he felt the way he did so soon. Then he tells me, he is spoiling me and has to stop giving me so much attention. After that I noticed a change. He wasn't trying to see me as much. He still texted and called, but it was always during his work hours, not after work. When I brought this to his attention he made an effort to change. During a conversation the topic of his children's mother came up. They seem like they get along so well(which is good) I asked him did he think they would get back together. He said maybe, he didn't know what the future held. That made me feel like maybe he was stringing me along, and maybe they are still involved. Here is where I messed up. I should have faded into the background, and dealt with him on a diff level. I told him it was best if we didn't talk anymore. We ended up getting into an argument via text, because he threw jabs and I threw back. I told him to loose my number and don't call. And he hasn't. Even after I apologized for not being "Christian like" (he had pointed that out in the text) He said some hurtful things, but I know he was upset for me telling him we should end it. I wish I hadn't told him to loose my number and not to call, because I do miss our conversations. Guys; Would you call back? From a guy's point of view what is he thinking? Part of me wants to call and tell him I didn't mean it and lets start over, but the other part of me keeps hearing him say, "It's my way, I write the book" and my head is saying "Don't you dare call him back, if he really cared he would reach out." What do you think?

We haven't talked in almost a year. We still had feelings for each other last time we talked, but I didn't want a relationship... well I did but I am dealing with stressful times, I still am, I love him and want to be with him... but I can't, at least for now... see this is what I hate... I feel like I'm leading him on, or that by saying merry Christmas he will think I'm interested again...I don't want to make him think that, but I'd hate to loose all contact with him... maybe I'm just being selfish... maybe I should leave him alone if I can't make up my mind? I don't want to play with his hear. I have already done that enough to him in the past...

I miss him so much and I just want to talk to him...

If you think It would be OK to send this how should I say it?

should I mention I miss him? or would that make it seem like I like him?

I would like to add something to my message(sending it over Facebook) but I don't know what... oh also I don't know if he has a girlfriend or not...

Any help is greatly appreciated! Happy Holidays guys.

My parents have been together for over 30 years. I recently found concrete evidence that my mother cheated on my father over a span of 2 years with 3 guys regularly roughly 14 years ago.

My mother is a homemaker and has never worked a real job. My father is disabled but still provides for the family. I honestly don't think they'd be able to make it without each other.

They swear they love each other and I have no clue if my father knows or not. I'm not sure how to handle this situation. Any ideas/suggestions?

I'm happy for him. She's super pretty and seems nice too.

Should I like a picture of my ex and his new girlfriend on Facebook?

I want to do what is best for him tho and I don't want him to fight with her so I'm ambivalent. The picture is really nice.

I always think that women suffer more in a divorce.However,from what I have read in our local newspapers,it seems that there are more cases of men than women committing suicide when the marriage ends with a divorce.What do you think?

Thanks beforehand for your time and response and the best answer would be selected.