I used to have no confidence with girls, until someone told me to just approach one and ask her for her number. Well one day I did it. My knees were shaking under my jeans and I was sweating like crazy kinda like this:
I walked up to a pretty girl and told her I thought she was cute and that I wanted to do something for the weekend. She smiled pretty big, pulled out her phone and asked me "What do you want to do?"
I immediately froze up. I totally wasn't expecting her to say that, I hadn't really even planned out what I had just said to her, I didn't even know what movies were playing. The rest probably went something like this:
So a lot of guys can work up the confidence to ask a girl out but they have no idea what to do with them. If you ask me, Going to a movie or eating out is really boring so whether you are taking her out for the first time or you're just trying to do something special, here are some date ideas that might actually work!
I don't know how many people can actually do this. I have a friend from Florida who had no clue what I was talking about when I brought it up.
Here in northern New Jersey we have access to a plethora of farms (mostly in NY) which offer fantastic apple selections. The scenery is usually nice it's a family friendly atmosphere but no one will look at you funny for making out in a PG manor. The farms usually have very nice "Homemade" food and side shit like hey mazes, petting zoos and hay rides.
People seem to think bowling is boring. That's only true if YOU'RE boring. It's a lot of fun to do with friends. It's a little expensive (or at least more than it should be) but you get to hang out for a little over an hour, talk, eat, drink. Some places even have pool tables which are fun.
See? Look how much fun these people are having. That girl hasn't even let go of the ball yet and everyone's already found the excitement to be so great, they can't hold back the urge to jump explosively in unison. Notice the man in the white shirt who has exerted more self control here than the others, he is obviously the cool one in the group and presumably the guy who took his friends and girlfriend bowling. Judging by her face, I'd say his idea went well.
Check out the stars
I feel like I can't go three months without hearing a bunch of space nerds going absolutely nuts about some kind of "rare event" that's "Never gonna happen again for (insert very large number) years!!!" And their heads are about to explode as if there isn't some kind of eclipse or shooting star or planet visible or something every other week.
(believe it or not, this isn't fake)
You don't have to know who eru iluvatar is, in order to appreciate the stars. If you live in an urban setting, you should take a girl out to a park somewhere, far from the city lights, get stuff from a food truck or somewhere kinda unique that doesn't make itself the main attraction of the day and walk somewhere really nice where once it gets dark, you can be alone together. Bring one of those portable speakers, a blanket and some snacks. Just hang out and talk.
Fly a kite
Bring the girl to a park get a kite, doesn't have to be a good one. You can pick one of from K-mart or something. People love kites, could you imagine some little kid asking you if he can hold it thus offering a chance to show her how good with kids you are? Give that 7 year old a pat on the back for being a good little wingman!
Girls also love the thought that you (a man) can assemble something- which even if you can't you'll have more fun attempting to put the fucking thing together then spending $50 on dinner where all your fears of being a boring conversationalist are undeniably confirmed.
I mean, if you can find a girl who's excited for this, I think you've found a really cool girl enough said. Probably not a good first date idea! But maybe it is. If you're really looking for a good relationship, show that hoe who you really are! For all you know, she might be totally into it.
Do something that shows her who you are
If you're a photographer or something, you may be using that to get girls. You may have even found a girl who wants to take some pics with you? Ehhh? Get some click click till ya clique! Perfect examples around me include Piermont NY which is a fantastically beautiful place where you can walk about, maybe get a bite to eat. Or you could bring her to Bear Mountain, a place where you could take a nature walk. Sometimes I see these people; I think they're crazy, they ride freakin mountain bikes down the alpine. If you meet a girl at the gym, bring that up. There's a few really nice people. You probably wouldn't have to try hard to find something like that near you.
When I was like 12 or something I went to my first street fair. I thought it was awesome, a radio station was set up there, they had music and food. I bought a goddamn Shamwow that day. Remember those things? Even years later I enjoyed going to Oktoberfest and other fairs that have cool concepts to them.
You can also find yourself some interesting food you don't always see. Like fried Oreos or apples covered in junk food.
These tend to be few and far between so you just have to look for them. There's lots of stuff to look at and sometimes do. As well as a lot of places to move in for a kiss. :0
Perhaps those things still don't fit you. You're more of the executive kinda guy. A little oldschool. Maybe you wanna go play golf! I've never been, but I bet if a girl saw you hit a fucking golf ball a quarter mile down a beautiful ass field, she's be pretty turned on. She'll drool over all your muscles moving and shit- be like "Wow, he's strong, just makes me want to get naked!"
Did I say golf? Who the hell even knows how to play golf? Nah, play mini golf. I've never done that before either but it's dark and there's neon. Girls like colors right? I dunno, I don't get them at all, you probably shouldn't even listen to me. I mean, you’re taking dating advice from a guy who hasn't gotten laid in over a month. Maybe this guy can help I hear he used to be a bananna . . .
What do you guys think? You think you wanna try some of these out guys? How would you feel about going on these dates girls?