1. Making an effort isn't limited to "traditional" dating or spending money.
A guy or girl can still show their date that they can and will do nice things for them in many ways. Striving for a wealthy man is the very definition of a gold-digger. What happens if he was hoping that you'd be an egalitarian by showing effort (like offering to pay) to let him know that you liked him back and you tell him he should be expected to pay. How embarrassing!
2. A Gold Digger is a person who dates others purely to extract money from them and would expect a financial clue while dating.
No one needs a clue about financial stability while on a date- even when marriage is the goal. It's a date, talk about financial stability when things get serious. Honestly, creative and cheaper dates are more impressive and require way more mental and emotional effort.
3. A Gold Digger expects to be pampered on a date.
Considerate people expect to get to know each other on a date. A date isn't all about you and what you want. If you expect something, you shouldn't shame a man for having expectations for something in return. ALSO, if you want to be a traditional lady.. You can ask for things like one and not demand it or expect it.
4. Traditional vs Modern dating?
No one is going to ask "hey, do you prefer modern or traditional style dating" before they try to take you out. If you invite a girl/guy on a date then it’s up to you to take care of her/him. Only because splitting the tab can change the dynamic from two people on a date into two friends hanging out. It's simple. Whether you personally expect every man to do everything for you or not... won't matter to anyone other than to the person you are dating or to whomever is buying you. There is such a thing as traditional gold-diggers, incidental or not.
This was inspired by and in response to : https://www.girlsaskguys.com/dating/a31061-4-reasons-why-i-ll-never-date-a-guy-who-doesn-t-pay-for-the-first-date
When a person starts making a list of expectations... It starts to sound less genuine and more like a grocery list or contract. It doesn't sound natural or fun. Money is important, but it doesn't need to define your every action and motivation in life.
No one wants to be poor and everyone has access to money. Everyone wants to find love, but not everyone meets the love of their life.