You have a point where many girls expect to be pursued. I think more should try going for what they like, definitely. But never making a move for the reason you gave doesn't make me think this was that mentality sound of a decision. It sounds like either part of you really wants a living relationship or you like the pedestal you put yourself on. Why such extreme measures over a girl you fell in love with after knowing 3 months? You hardly can fall in real love within that time frame.
I have always made the 1st move with dudes. Most of them tell me I should not make the 1st move.
Honestly if I saw you in a crowd I would make a 1st move.
For women ( the more you get rejected the less and less it hurts. So don’t be afraid to try to make a 1st move there is a 50\50 chance you will get rejected.)
I beg your pardon but it sounds somewhat bitter, right? Women I know feel good when approached by an attractive male, which you say you are. Maybe you could look to changing the way you are choosing new partners?
Haa, my ex made the first move, then I had to do all the other moves, until I went nuts and stop seen the relationship the same way.
Initiatives coming from both sides makes a strong relationship. When you are the one proposing and trying to make things more exciting, that's bad enough.
The reason you don't make a move is because you're afraid to. Women most likely don't even notice, that's just something you like to tell yourself to make yourself feel better about being a pussy.
Well to be honest most dudes wouldn’t make the first move if they didn’t have too, women have the option of making the first move or not and they usually don’t because why do all that work and risk rejection when you can be on the other side, dudes don’t have that option, never been asked out never will, so I do the asking out and now I got a rad girl, dude just suck it up and ask women out stop your weird protest and just find a girl
I've thought about that and if I missed that perfect person she's way gone by now. And if she's still around she will make the first move or she was never the perfect one, to begin with.
Sad but true. The ball is on their court, I do not play basketball anymore.
You must not be that good looking or you never leave the house. Girls hit on me regularly. If im out the house a lot at least 2 or 3 girls will talk to me per week. Id certainly not be single the rest of my life.
Yeah. The second part. I barely go out anymore. I've lost all interested in the dating life. I am at a point where everything happens for a reason. I have become a private person due to my actions and being a private person is actually the type of person I was meant to be and love to be.
hahahahahahaha you are sooo funny u got me cracking up at work thanks for this i am single for 3 years now got my heart broken too and i dont mind been single.. my friends want me to get laid i know what i want and am healed from my breakup but damn i can't help laughing step down your horse lets chat heheheh see am reaching out to u hahaha
And you're still whining about a heartbreak from a decade ago. Grow some balls man, toughen up a little francis. ;)
Its fine if you don't want to date, or are too fragile to date, but don't blame it on the women - they're just going to continue to be who and what they are - that just ain't gonna change. So you either play the game to win or you take your bat and ball and go home.
You need a better understanding of why women do what they do, so go here and read: www.therationalmale.com
Everybody gets their heart broken at some point - EVERYBODY. It's part of the learning process. You get back up, dust yourself off, and go try it again. At least that's what normal well-adjusted adults do. They don't go whining about it on a internet forum. :)
I am not sure what i just read. I don't care who you think you are, but expecting women to make the first move may just be a waste of possible partners. I am afraid to show interest first because of how a few guys perceived tgat in the past.
Most girls wouldn't make the first move for 2 reasons: 1. You're the man, you should have the balls to do it. If you don't have the courage to speak to a girl then when do you have courage? 2. They are afraid as well.
I was to 95% the one that made the first move. And trust me in that way: I am incredibly shy, because I’m scared. As well all are: rejection. But if I really like someone I have to risk it. But I’m glad that men have problems with it, since I always wonder why the men I met never made the first move. Thinking they didn’t really want me or something..
I’m on the exact same page as you. Won’t be asking any girl out nor putting up with her demands. Want a boyfriend come get us.
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Welcome to the dating world. If you won't make the first move, somebody else standing by her will. If not, it's unlikely that she'll do it anyways. I would never approach a dude regardless of who it is. I like guys who are brave and confident.
Ah the modern woman... feminist enough to demand equal treatment, but "i'm just a little girl" enough to not behave equally. The dynamic between men and women nowadays is too convenient to not be intelligently designed. Oh well. Happy to indulge.
Lol @ all the whining and bitching. I am by no means a "modern woman". I'm a traditional woman.
There is no "my world". There is only one dating world. In this world, guys who don't have the balls to make the first move are at a significant disadvantage since you will be competing against many brave and confident men who will approach them. This is independent from how brave and confident she is herself as unlike men, most brave and confident women don't want to approach either. Why would a chick make the first move on you when there are plenty of alpha males who will do it before she even notices you? Either man up or stay single because the vast majority of women won't make the first move regardless of what YOU want and how much you complain. It's the way it is. Approaching has always been the man's role and that is not going to change over your repressed feelings and self-esteem issues.
If you read myTake again you would realize that the problem is not having balls. The problem is that I as a human being got tired of how women expect men to always make the first move. I decided to put a stop to that 11 years ago and I am now living with the consequences which I truly enjoy and have learned a lot from during the past decade. I will say it again, I do not mind being single till the day I die. I have learned to live like this and if I have to wait for that one girl who decided to step of her high horse then I will. I am not your average Joe... I am an Alien compared to every other man out there when it comes to how I see things. Have a nice day and please read carefully.
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You have a point where many girls expect to be pursued. I think more should try going for what they like, definitely. But never making a move for the reason you gave doesn't make me think this was that mentality sound of a decision. It sounds like either part of you really wants a living relationship or you like the pedestal you put yourself on. Why such extreme measures over a girl you fell in love with after knowing 3 months? You hardly can fall in real love within that time frame.
All guys should stop making the first move or asking girls out. Just to see what happens. Humans might go extinct
" Humans might go extinct " ... Most other Earth lifeforms would benefit greatly
@FatherJack I agree
Your choice, as long as you live with the consequences.
It seems like this way of thinking is becoming more and more popular.
I've seen it more and more to be honest. The future will be interesting.
Truthfully I think it’s a bit silly for why you stopped making the first move.
Those who disliked my comment, I’d like to know why 😂
I rarely ever made the first move and when I did, it failed. The very small number of girlfriends that I have had all asked me out.
It's not good to rely on the other person to make a move, but it's also a sign when it's only you who does.
I have always made the 1st move with dudes. Most of them tell me I should not make the 1st move.
Honestly if I saw you in a crowd I would make a 1st move.
For women ( the more you get rejected the less and less it hurts. So don’t be afraid to try to make a 1st move there is a 50\50 chance you will get rejected.)
I beg your pardon but it sounds somewhat bitter, right? Women I know feel good when approached by an attractive male, which you say you are. Maybe you could look to changing the way you are choosing new partners?
Haa, my ex made the first move, then I had to do all the other moves, until I went nuts and stop seen the relationship the same way.
Initiatives coming from both sides makes a strong relationship. When you are the one proposing and trying to make things more exciting, that's bad enough.
the only one proposing...*
HAHAHAAHHAHAHAHAHAHA
The reason you don't make a move is because you're afraid to. Women most likely don't even notice, that's just something you like to tell yourself to make yourself feel better about being a pussy.
Not necessarily. I no longer approach girls either, but there was a time where I approached pretty much any girl, anywhere, at any time.
Now I don't bother, but it has nothing to do with fear.
@Truthatanycost
But you're 102 years old, that's bound to happen at that age.
Well to be honest most dudes wouldn’t make the first move if they didn’t have too, women have the option of making the first move or not and they usually don’t because why do all that work and risk rejection when you can be on the other side, dudes don’t have that option, never been asked out never will, so I do the asking out and now I got a rad girl, dude just suck it up and ask women out stop your weird protest and just find a girl
Still have to pit yourself out there or you may miss the perfect person that's out there for you
I've thought about that and if I missed that perfect person she's way gone by now. And if she's still around she will make the first move or she was never the perfect one, to begin with.
Sad but true. The ball is on their court, I do not play basketball anymore.
You must not be that good looking or you never leave the house. Girls hit on me regularly. If im out the house a lot at least 2 or 3 girls will talk to me per week. Id certainly not be single the rest of my life.
Yeah. The second part. I barely go out anymore. I've lost all interested in the dating life. I am at a point where everything happens for a reason. I have become a private person due to my actions and being a private person is actually the type of person I was meant to be and love to be.
hahahahahahaha you are sooo funny u got me cracking up at work thanks for this i am single for 3 years now got my heart broken too and i dont mind been single.. my friends want me to get laid i know what i want and am healed from my breakup but damn i can't help laughing step down your horse lets chat heheheh see am reaching out to u hahaha
You're way too weak dude. Women loathe that. Just sayin'.
And you're still whining about a heartbreak from a decade ago. Grow some balls man, toughen up a little francis. ;)
Its fine if you don't want to date, or are too fragile to date, but don't blame it on the women - they're just going to continue to be who and what they are - that just ain't gonna change. So you either play the game to win or you take your bat and ball and go home.
You need a better understanding of why women do what they do, so go here and read:
www.therationalmale.com
Everybody gets their heart broken at some point - EVERYBODY. It's part of the learning process. You get back up, dust yourself off, and go try it again. At least that's what normal well-adjusted adults do. They don't go whining about it on a internet forum. :)
I am not sure what i just read. I don't care who you think you are, but expecting women to make the first move may just be a waste of possible partners. I am afraid to show interest first because of how a few guys perceived tgat in the past.
Most girls wouldn't make the first move for 2 reasons:
1. You're the man, you should have the balls to do it. If you don't have the courage to speak to a girl then when do you have courage?
2. They are afraid as well.
I was to 95% the one that made the first move. And trust me in that way: I am incredibly shy, because I’m scared. As well all are: rejection.
But if I really like someone I have to risk it.
But I’m glad that men have problems with it, since I always wonder why the men I met never made the first move. Thinking they didn’t really want me or something..
I’m on the exact same page as you. Won’t be asking any girl out nor putting up with her demands. Want a boyfriend come get us.
Welcome to the dating world. If you won't make the first move, somebody else standing by her will. If not, it's unlikely that she'll do it anyways. I would never approach a dude regardless of who it is. I like guys who are brave and confident.
I like girls who are brave and confident as well.
Welcome to my world.
Ah the modern woman... feminist enough to demand equal treatment, but "i'm just a little girl" enough to not behave equally. The dynamic between men and women nowadays is too convenient to not be intelligently designed. Oh well. Happy to indulge.
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Lol @ all the whining and bitching. I am by no means a "modern woman". I'm a traditional woman.
There is no "my world". There is only one dating world. In this world, guys who don't have the balls to make the first move are at a significant disadvantage since you will be competing against many brave and confident men who will approach them. This is independent from how brave and confident she is herself as unlike men, most brave and confident women don't want to approach either. Why would a chick make the first move on you when there are plenty of alpha males who will do it before she even notices you? Either man up or stay single because the vast majority of women won't make the first move regardless of what YOU want and how much you complain. It's the way it is. Approaching has always been the man's role and that is not going to change over your repressed feelings and self-esteem issues.
@demonics May God help you. You really do need it. Amen.
If you read myTake again you would realize that the problem is not having balls. The problem is that I as a human being got tired of how women expect men to always make the first move. I decided to put a stop to that 11 years ago and I am now living with the consequences which I truly enjoy and have learned a lot from during the past decade. I will say it again, I do not mind being single till the day I die. I have learned to live like this and if I have to wait for that one girl who decided to step of her high horse then I will. I am not your average Joe... I am an Alien compared to every other man out there when it comes to how I see things. Have a nice day and please read carefully.
Good luck with that.